A Common Topic Recently it seems as if Facebook comes up non-stop in my sessions. I have recently joked with clients that if I had a dollar for every time I heard the word...
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Category: Marriage
Fix Them Please!
Common Myths In Marriage Counseling It's something I hear everyday. "I did not do anything wrong in this marriage, she is the one that had an affair." "He has an addiction and he...
Fun in Marriage: The Fun Pie Hog
If you were to measure all of the fun in marriage, is your wife or husband a fun pie hog? A fun pie hog, what is that? Well it is exactly what it sounds like. Imagine there was a...
After a Fight, An Olive Branch Eases the Pain
Arguments are a normal part of every relationship. But knowing how to reconnect after a fight can feel much harder than the conflict itself. After a heated argument, many couples...
Fighting in Marriage – The Power of Positive Connection
Strengthening Your Marriage: The Power of Positive Connection in Carmel, Indiana Marriage counselors often see couples in intense conflict. Arguments seem to escalate quickly. It...
Courage – The Mysterious Hidden Power Pellet
Courage and Recovery: Finding Strength Through Counseling in Carmel, Indiana The word courage has been on my mind recently. And I’ve realized something powerful: courage is a...
Hitting Rock Bottom
Finding Thankfulness at Rock Bottom: Lessons from Counseling This morning at church, I had a moment that really made me think about rock bottom and gratitude. The sermon focused...
Counseling – About Christy Aloisio
How Did I Get Into Counseling? I was born and raised in Indianapolis with an older brother and a younger brother (yes, I do have middle child syndrome). I attended Decatur...
Mutual Respect
Mutual Respect: Making Decisions You Won’t Regret Recently, I had an experience with my son while ordering his class ring that reminded me how important mutual respect is. My son...
Rewrite Your Life Story
How to Rewrite Your Life Story for Healing and Growth We all carry stories about our lives—mental narratives about what has happened to us, from childhood experiences to recent...
Communication – Commanding vs. Demanding
Understanding the Difference Between Commanding and Demanding in Relationships Healthy relationship communication is essential for long-term connection and satisfaction. One...
Behind the Veil of Enmeshment
Understanding Enmeshment During an Affair: Insights from Marriage Counseling In my years as a marriage counselor, I’ve seen many clients become completely lost in the throes of...
The Amygdala – The REAL Cause for Emotional Reactivity
Emotional Reactivity in Marriage: How the Amygdala Hijacks Healthy Communication After years of providing marriage counseling and couples therapy, one pattern continues to stand...
Make Your Last Ditch Effort Count
Why Marriage Counseling Shouldn’t Be a “Last-Ditch Effort” Many couples begin marriage counseling when they feel emotionally exhausted. Anger has built up. Resentment lingers....
You Never Know How Strong You Are
You never know how strong you are, until you have to be. It's true. We may see ourselves as strong, we may talk tough a tough game and we may even truly mean it. But we can't...
Paradigm Shift – Suddenly I See . . .
The Power of a Paradigm Shift in Marriage Counseling Have you ever experienced a true paradigm shift — a moment when everything you thought was true suddenly looked different?...
Counseling – A House Cleaning Perspective
What Does House Cleaning Have to Do with Counseling? At first glance, house cleaning and counseling may not seem related. Yet the connection is stronger than you might think....
Navigating Relationships With In-Laws
You managed to find and marry your absolute soulmate–lucky you! Nothing can come between the two of you now. Or is navigating relationships with In-Laws proving a bit more...
What Is Healthy Detachment?
Healthy detachment sounds a bit like an oxymoron, right? It is not. It does not involve cutting off or building walls. In fact, healthy detachment is one of the greatest gifts...
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