How do you deal with the loneliness in your life? "What loneliness?", you ask? The loneliness you are masking when you are constantly texting, surfing the net, facebooking,...
How Do You Deal With Your Loneliness?
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Category: Marriage
How Badly Do You Want Changes In Your Life?
Still wondering why you can’t get change to occur in your life? Maybe you’re not disgusted with yourself enough yet! Change will only occur when where you are at is more...
Enmeshment 101
The first order of business in Enmeshment 101 is learning what it is. Most people would be a little surprised to hear about being too close in a marriage What's wrong with...
It May Be Time For A Tank Inspection
I know a guy who is so frustrated he can't see straight. He just wants to be loved! He wants to feel unconditional love from his wife, his family, the world, God; but it just...
Emotional Maturity: Are You 3 or 43?
How emotionally mature are you? We would all like to believe that we are mature, rational adults, but if we are honest with ourselves, we’ve all got some emotional immaturity in...
You And I Are One. . .
And Two Shall Become One! This common belief in marriage is a great concept – unless there is a debate about who gets to be “the one”! When this power struggle begins,...
Intimacy Hide & Seek
I thought intimacy was easy. You’re just supposed to love and be loved, right? Intimacy isn’t as much about love as it is about really “knowing” a person and about letting...
Desperately In Love With You!
“I’m desperately in love with you!” Taylor Swift sang from the country radio station I was listening to. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy Taylor’s music, but these words just struck...
Your Spouse Is A Gift To You
What did you get married for? Did you expect your partner would love you unconditionally for all time? That’s what most of us planned on when we entered our marital contract. ...
Climbing Mt. Everest
Changing behavior is SO hard, isn’t it? This is especially hard when our behavior is driven from such deep wounds as abandonment and shame! To switch from our knee jerk...
Get A Hold of Yourself!
I had an awesome experience recently! The details don’t really matter, it is my reaction to it that I want to share! Let me explain . . . In each of us there are multiple...
Split Up Or Stay Together?
We all get in relationships thinking we will never split up, but when problems hit and the possibility of parting ways is considered we are usually in panic mode. I want to...
Abandonment: A Famine of the Soul
I heard the perfect descriptive phrase this week . . . “famine of the soul”. Wow. I love it! It perfectly describes abandonment. Many people spend most of their lives...
How Well Do You Apologize?
How good are you at apologizing? People range from never apologizing to apologizing even when something is not even remotely their fault! How well do YOU apologize? No apology...
I Feel Pain, What’d You Do?
Are you guilty of something I like to call I Feel Pain, What’d You Do? The idea is that if you’re feeling some kind of discomfort, someone must have done something to cause it! ...
Are You An Over-Functioner?
Are you tired? Overworked? Overwhelmed? Feel like you can’t stop doing everything that you do or things will just fall apart? You are probably overfunctioning - BIG TIME!...
Why Do We Tell And Re-Tell Our Stories?
Know someone who is constantly telling the ‘stories’ of their life? Or is it you? We often tell our stories in great detail, with all of the drama, the exasperation, the angst,...
Victimy or Validating?
If you don’t know the difference between being a victim vs. validating your partner, you’re in trouble! Knowing the difference determines whether conflicts in your relationships...
Forgiveness ~ The Ultimate ‘F’ Word!
Why should we forgive someone who has hurt us? It feels like the most unnatural thing in the world, doesn’t it? It feels like we will hurt MORE if we forgive, doesn't it? If...
What’s At The Heart of YOUR Marital Issues?
Do you know what’s at the heart of your marital issues? What I’m talking about are the core issues, the deep fears and insecurities buried inside you and your spouse. If you...
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