The first order of business in Enmeshment 101 is learning what it is. Most people would be a little surprised to hear about being too close in a marriage What's wrong with...
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Blogs By: Christy Aloisio
How to Improve Your Golf Game (and Maybe Even Your Marriage)
I have many clients who enjoy playing golf. I often hear the small talk of, “I am playing golf with my buddies tomorrow,” or “This weather is so great, I think I need to fit in...
Marriage: The Well Oiled Machine
Marriage counseling is not really about fixing marriage. Sounds weird, yes I know. But marriage counseling is about fixing you. You are the only one that you can control, and you...
Forgive for You!
Forgiveness is a word spoken daily in my office. It is a struggle that most endure at some point in their lives. A woman who cannot get over and move on from being molested by a...
A Snake in the Grass
The Snake Story One day there was a man driving through the desert. A snake on the side of the road flags down the man as he is driving. The man pulls over and the snake says,...
A Quick Glance in the Mirror – Codependency
I recently had someone comment that discussing codependency feels like "man bashing." That some of the writing and talking I do about being independent and having power in a...
Tears of Joy
Marriage counseling can be successful, but therapy work is full of pain, sadness, and tears. Couples come in full of anger and resentment towards each other. They yell, they...
Trick or Treat
When you look into a child's eyes when they are all dressed up in their Halloween costumes, all you see is joy, fun, excitement. Dressing up and pretending to be someone they are...
Codependency – The Vicious Triangle
The Last Characteristic We have finally come to the last characteristic of codependency, being passive in a relationship. Often feelings of being wronged or used; also called...
Codependent – Other Centered
Learning You Are Codependent Very few people come in to my office, hear that they are codependent, jump up and say, "Wow you are right. Thanks so much my problems are solved!" It...
Codependency – The Dig of Dependency
Characteristic # 2: Dependent and Needy Now it's time to look at the next characteristic of codependency; being dependent and needy. Codependents tend to cling onto relationships...
The Unsexy Side of Therapy – Codependency
You may have noticed how many articles we have on our website about counterdependency, but very little material on its counter part codependency. I've been told that the reason...
Therapy – Time to Get Real!
Is Therapy A Place For Venting? Feel free to come into my office and vent. Vent all you want in therapy about your partner and how "they do this!" or "they don't do this!" "They...
Group Therapy is Not Torture!
You should see the look on my clients faces when I suggest they go to group therapy. You would think I asked them to jump into a tank full of sharks with a cut on their leg....
Expectations Part Deux
So we already looked at how many implications the word "expectations" has on relationships. We have looked into how important it is that our partners know what our expectations...
Expectations: Why Can’t He Read My Mind?!?
Implications Expectations... Seems like such a simple word, but the implications of expectations are huge. I hear about expectations practically everyday. "She didn't meet my...
The Fantasy of Marriage
The Fantasy "A knight in shining armor is going to come and take me away from my family that doesn't care for me." "My wife will listen to me and meet my needs the way my family...
Codependency Recovery – Find Your Sense of Self
Codependency Joke In one of my group sessions I was told a "codependency" joke. It goes like this: A codependent flies out to California and rents a convertible. As she is...
Facebook: Friend or Foe
A Common Topic Recently it seems as if Facebook comes up non-stop in my sessions. I have recently joked with clients that if I had a dollar for every time I heard the word...
Fix Them Please!
Common Myths In Marriage Counseling It's something I hear everyday. "I did not do anything wrong in this marriage, she is the one that had an affair." "He has an addiction and he...
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