Anger Management. It can almost be considered a "buzz word" lately. When people experience what feels like extreme or out of control anger, they start to wonder about classes...
The Anger Management Myth
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Blogs By: Nancy
The Blame Game
How do you discuss tough topics? If you are able to self-differentiate, not define yourself based on another person's actions or words, then you are able to hear another...
Letting Go Of Resentment
Resentment is so incredibly common. We all feel wronged by someone at some time or another, and where there is blame, over and over again, there is resentment. Everyone walking...
The Art of Listening
As a therapist, you can imagine the importance of being a good listener. Listening is a must-master skill for this profession, and it is not one that we humans are born with, but...
Cutting: Why People Self-Harm
This is an uncomfortable topic for most folks, but it is very important not to shy away from it whether you struggle with cutting or self-harm yourself, or if know someone who...
Groundhog Day
Do you ever feel like your life is just the same day lived over and over again? Just like the movie "Groundhog Day", sometimes it can feel as though our days are repeating...
Intimacy Builder: Validation
Validation simply means acknowledging, and giving importance to, the worldview of another. Validation is a powerful tool in a therapist's toolbag, and can disarm anxiety and...
The Cure For Anxiety?
Pretty bold claim to make, don't you think? That there is a cure for something so commonplace in our society today that it plagues nearly everyone from time to time, and some...
Why I Don’t Give Advice
It's pretty common for people to seek out a counselor to get some advice. They want answers, a referee, an expert to tell them how to get out of the place they find themselves...
Pornography: The Effects
We've heard all the main arguments and reasons to not watch pornography: because it objectifies people, it can be addictive, it's morally wrong, etc. As we take note of the...
Invitation vs. Expectation
I work with couples regularly who are stuck in the power struggle. They fight with each other over which one is going to act and behave according to the other'sworldview. It...
Procrastination and Perfectionism
Today we are going to look at what procrastination and perfectionism have to do with each other. Do you have procrastination tendencies, like me? Do you wish you could stop, and...
Thoughts On Failure
'Round about the end of January, many folks are beating themselves up and having feelings of failure in keeping their new year's resolutions. There are other times any time of...
Healing Trust Damage
Healing trust damage is a topic that is pretty common in my office. For example, how does one overcome the trust damage that occurs when a spouse has an affair? What if your...
Resolutions
As we enter into another new year, it is common to think about resolutions, or changes, that we would like to make. Is the word "resolution" like a swear word to you? For many...
The Trial Of The Mind
I love a good courtroom drama. Stories like "A Few Good Men" and "To Kill A Mockingbird" offer a lot to think about as well as some good suspense. I have recently begun using a...
Unintentional Communication
As parents, spouses, friends, and family members, we often communicate unintentional messages that get us into trouble! To make matters worse, our partners have "guessers" that...
Defensiveness: Protecting The Heart
Defensiveness is an excellent indicator to help find woundedness in the human heart. After all, we defend places that hurt, like a lion protecting a paw with a thorn in it....
The Power of Gratitude
Gratitude is one of the best daily practices you can foster. If you are on Facebook, you have likely seen posts about the gratitude challenge, asking people to post, for seven...
How To Develop Patience
Oh boy oh boy oh boy oh boy. Be careful what you ask for and for SURE be careful what you pray for. If you have prayed for patience or otherwise asked the Universe for the trait...
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