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Category: Codependent
If I Could Give Each Person Just One Gift
If I could give each person just one gift, it would be the gift of being able to truly see themselves through the eyes of the people around them. It would be a sobering gift,...
3 Parts of You
Do you know the different parts of yourself? Most of us are only vaguely aware of the 3 different parts that I like to talk about in counseling: The Adult, The Little Boy/Girl,...
Do You Suffer From the Doormat Syndrome?
Do you suffer from the doormat syndrome? Getting asked that question may feel like a slap in the face; especially if it is true. It is not easy to hear that we are a doormat,...
The Blame Game
How do you discuss tough topics? If you are able to self-differentiate, not define yourself based on another person's actions or words, then you are able to hear another...
Are Your Emotions Unstable?
Do your emotions sometimes feel unstable? Do you find yourself doing things you thought or promised you wouldn’t do? Does your partner? You may be experiencing what I call the...
How You Might Be Blocking Your Own Needs!
Do you ever become aware of a need and then immediately feel guilty? Or maybe you have a need but feel guilty asking for it to be met? Perhaps you hesitate asking for your need...
How To Gain Control Over Your Life
Want more control over your life? It is much easier than you think! We spend so much of our time feeling anxious and out of control and we expend so much energy ruminating and...
Finding Happily Ever After
Have you been looking for happily ever after? Let’s face it. Deep down, that’s what we all want – for the struggle to end, the ease to begin. We want the comfort of having our...
Change Your Relationship Landscape
The ideal purpose of marriage and family is to be your true self, to grow, to be loved, and accepted, unconditionally. Family can be a place to learn the purpose and place for...
Relationship Dependency
You CAN change the cycle of pain you came from..Rewrite your story for hope, for change, for unconditional love. What triggers you into a state of fear? What pushes your buttons?...
3 Signs You May Be Codependent
The word codependent is thrown around a lot. Most of the time people hear the word in relation with being married to an alcoholic. Although it is true that if you are married to...
Triangling – The Devil’s Triangle
Do you know someone who uses humor, gossiping, or backstabbing to address their inner anger towards someone else? Triangling like this is when someone is gossiping, judging,...
Codependency – The Vicious Triangle
We have finally come to the last characteristic of codependency, being passive in a relationship. Often feelings of being wronged or used; also called being "victimy" come with...
Codependent – Other Centered
Very few people come in to my office, hear that they are codependent, jump up and say, "Wow you are right. Thanks so much my problems are solved!" It actually is quite the...
Codependency – The Dig of Dependency
Now it's time to look at the next characteristic of codependency; being dependent and needy. Codependents tend to cling onto relationships very quickly. They meet someone and...
The Unsexy Side of Therapy – Codependency
You may have noticed how many articles we have on our website about counterdependency, but very little material on its counter part codependency. I've been told that the reason...
Codependency Recovery – Find Your Sense of Self
In one of my group sessions I was told a "codependency" joke. It goes like this: A codependent flies out to California and rents a covertible. As she is driving up the coastal...
What do you think?
Well, I have this problem and was wondering, what would you do? Can you believe he acted like that, what should I do about that? I don't want to leave her, but she is just not...
Counseling – Let’s start at the beginning!
How did I get into counseling? I was born and raised in Indianapolis with an older brother and a younger brother (yes, I do have middle child syndrome). I went to Decatur Central...
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