There is a contradiction between feeling love and hate, it's obviously almost impossible to feel both emotions at the same time, or is it? Recently a client came into my...
Love, Hate, and Co-Dependency
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Category: Marital Therapy
“Bullying, Gossiping and the Devil’s Triangle”
Do you know someone who uses humor, gossiping, or backstabbing to address their inner anger towards someone else? Gossiping, judging, getting someone else to be angry with you...
The Godfather and Abandonment
Last week, I wrote about the Godfather and the parallels of his life of addiction and real people's addictions, such as addictions that clients often suffer from who seek...
Sex Addiction and the Godfather: Part I
The movie, "The Godfather" is chalk full of family systems theory. What issue did the Godfather NOT suffer from! He seriously was void of a father figure that was...
“You Are Controlling!”
Control isn't about typical jealousy you see in a "lifetime" movie. It's being over productive, doing pre-emptively what others are able to do. Being controlling doesn't mean...
Who Are You Really??
Who are you really? The typical answers won’t do here….such as student, wife, mom, daughter, father, owner, employee, doctor, lawyer, teacher, brother, lover, husband, etc. These...
Jealousy……But Why?
Why does negativity stick? Why, when something negative crosses your path, do you feel upset and why does it linger? It seems too often that people define themselves based on...
He Didn’t Know Her
Inspiration is everywhere in the work of a therapist. There is a fair amount of relationship pain that walks into my office. Many wish to have love, acceptance, and...
“Attention: Indianapolis Marriage Counseling….it’s not just about your parents!”
Our marriage counseling is heavily based on the family systems paradigm. Many of our Indianapolis area married couples who are seeking counseling originally believe that marriage...
“Self Talk Dictates your Life”
People in Indianapolis seek marriage counseling for many different reasons. Family Tree Counseling provides a unique approach to marital therapy to the Indianapolis area through...
“Truth about Abandonment!” Part II
"So, what happens next? How does my abandonment work in my marriage?" What happens next is our defenses kick into high gear. As adults, in our relationships, we can feel...
“Truth about Abandonment!”
Abandonment happens everyday in our lives......it happened in our past and it will happen again. Abandonment is the feeling that says "I did not get what I wanted or needed from...
“Is He Worth Therapy?”
Dealing with someone you love who feels distant, uncommitted, and is possibly having an affair can be gut wrenching and painful. The sting of betrayal, the lousy levels of...
” We Have Communication Issues, that’s all…”
Communication "I know he doesn't care....it doesn't matter if he says he does!" Many times a week, couples will say they are having communication issues. When I probe...
Pain is good…..
"We were doing pretty good until we came in today." I hear this from a couple pretty often, who visit me weekly for marital counseling. She has anxiety and...
He won’t change! She won’t change!
On a recent trip, I looked out the window of my airplane seat and noticed fluffy white clouds and a clear blue sky. Below the massive clouds were cities covered in darkness. I...
Let’s start at the beginning!
I was born and raised in Indianapolis with an older brother and a younger brother (yes, I do have middle child syndrome). I went to Decatur Central High School and went to Purdue...
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