What do you do after you learn of affairs, cheating and lying? You are devastated, your spouse has cheated, he says he's confused and doesn't know what he wants. You feel more...
Affairs, Cheaters, and Lies
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Category: Marital Therapy
Wearing Childish and Insecure Goggles
After watching so many goggles cross the TV screen during the Olympics, I was inspired by the goggles the Olympic swimmers and divers usedas they courageously competed....
Love, Hate, and Co-Dependency
There is a contradiction between feeling love and hate, it's obviously almost impossible to feel both emotions at the same time, or is it? Recently a client came into my...
Triangling – The Devil’s Triangle
Do you know someone who uses humor, gossiping, or backstabbing to address their inner anger towards someone else? Triangling like this is when someone is gossiping, judging,...
The Godfather and Abandonment
Last week, I wrote about the Godfather and the parallels of his life of addiction and real people's addictions, such as addictions that clients often suffer from who seek...
“You Are Controlling!”
Control isn't about typical jealousy you see in a "lifetime" movie. It's being over productive, doing pre-emptively what others are able to do. Being controlling doesn't mean...
Who Are You Really??
Who are you really? The typical answers won't do here....such as student, wife, mom, daughter, father, owner, employee, doctor, lawyer, teacher, brother, lover, husband, etc....
Jealousy……But Why?
Why does negativity stick?Why, when something negative crosses your path, do you feel upset and why does it linger? It seems too often that people definethemselves based on...
He Didn’t Know Her
Inspiration is everywhere in the work of a therapist. There is a fairamount ofrelationship pain thatwalks into my office. Manywish to have love, acceptance, and belonging....for...
Family Systems Counseling….it’s not just about your parents!
Our marriage counseling is heavily based on the family systems paradigm.Many of our Indianapolis area married couples who are seeking...
Self-Talk Dictates Your Life
People in Indianapolis seek marriage counseling for many different reasons. Self-talk is a common thing that we work on. Healing Hearts of Indy provides a unique approach to...
“Truth about Abandonment!” Part II
"So, what happens next, how does my abandonment work in my marriage?" What happens next is our defenses kick into high gear. As adults, in our relationships, we can feel enraged,...
“Truth about Abandonment!”
Abandonmenthappens everyday in our lives......it happened in our past and it will happen again. Abandonment is the feeling that says "I did not get what I wanted or needed from...
“Is He Worth Therapy?”
Dealing with someone you love who feels distant, uncommitted, and is possibly having an affair can be gut wrenching and painful. The sting of betrayal, the lousy levels of...
” We Have Communication Issues, that’s all…”
Communication "I know he doesn't care....it doesn't matter if he says he does!" Many times a week, couples will say theyare having communication issues. When I probe...
Pain is good…..
"We were doing pretty good until we came in today." I hearthis from a couple pretty often, who visit me weekly for maritalcounseling.She has anxiety and perfectionistictendencies...
He won’t change! She won’t change!
On a recent trip, I looked out the window of my airplane seatand noticed fluffy white clouds and a clear blue sky.Below themassiveclouds were cities covered in darkness.I noticed...
Truth and Grace
‘Truth comes from the mouths of babes.’ Isn’t that old cliché so true? Kids can say the most unadulterated, brutal truth with such ease! And when they say it, we don’t take...
The Gift of the Magi
Frantically trying to decide what to give your loved one for Christmas this year? You are not alone. While some people delight in the season of gift giving, far too many people...
Broken Radar
Are you constantly scanning the environment trying to figure out what your partner is feeling? Do you and your partner seem to be “reading” each other all the time? If so, do...
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