So we already looked at how many implications the word "expectations" has on relationships. We have looked into how important it is that our partners know what our expectations...
Expectations Part Deux
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Category: Self-Help
Expectations: Why Can’t He Read My Mind?!?
Implications Expectations... Seems like such a simple word, but the implications of expectations are huge. I hear about expectations practically everyday. "She didn't meet my...
Teachability
It's Hard To Hear The Truth It is hard to hear the truth. Period. No one wants to hear: “You are critical.” “He's hard to talk to.”, “You’re manipulative like your mother!”...
All Alone . . .
Learning how to be alone is an art. It takes patience, tons of patience in fact, but it is so vitally important for good mental health and healthy relationships. If we can’t...
To Be Judged
Far too many of us live our lives in fear of judgment - from friends, family, God, even perfect strangers! Why is it that everyone else's opinion of us is so important? In...
Parents: The Spot On the Wall
During parents orientation for college recently, a faculty member was suggesting that we discuss with our students how we feel about them leaving. He wisely knew that most of us...
Self-Care: Mom’s Battery Charger
Mothers walk into my counseling office wearing tired smiles. Their posture is slumped. Their eyes are heavy. And eventually, in a hushed and almost guilty tone, they admit: “I...
Codependent Polling – What Do You Think?
Stop Polling: Trust Yourself in Counseling and Recovery in Carmel, Indiana Are you guilty of codependent polling? You might ask yourself: “I have this problem. What would you...
Counseling – About Christy Aloisio
How Did I Get Into Counseling? I was born and raised in Indianapolis with an older brother and a younger brother (yes, I do have middle child syndrome). I attended Decatur...
Rewrite Your Life Story
How to Rewrite Your Life Story for Healing and Growth We all carry stories about our lives—mental narratives about what has happened to us, from childhood experiences to recent...
Parenting – Yesterday a Boy, Today a Man
Memories Of the Little Boy Parenting is a wild ride. The other night I dreamt of myself playing with my 2 year old son. He was pudgy and playful and so positively gleeful. His...
You Never Know How Strong You Are
You never know how strong you are, until you have to be. It's true. We may see ourselves as strong, we may talk tough a tough game and we may even truly mean it. But we can't...
Mothers Who Can’t Love
Healing from a Difficult Mother–Daughter Relationship: A Counseling Perspective Not every woman grows up with a nurturing, emotionally available mother. While society often...
Envisioning the Enneagram
The Enneagram is a test used to understand and describe personality that has been around since the 1900's–though it is certainly becoming trendier lately. I wrote a paper on a...
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