How Old Is Your Inner Child?

by Kathy | Dec 3, 2011

How old is your inner child? The part of you that is tender, fragile, innocent, sweet, and easily hurt? We all walk around in adult bodies, making adult decisions, holding...

Forgive for You!

by Christy Aloisio | Nov 27, 2011

Forgiveness is a word spoken daily in my office. It is a struggle that most endure at some point in their lives. It is the woman who cannot get over and move on from being...

Who Do You Give Your Power To?

by Kathy | Nov 12, 2011

“Not today, Sister!” These 3 words taught me a huge lesson once that will stick with me for life. I had worked for months planning an employee event at my job and I was super...

Sitting In Your Stuff

by Kathy | Oct 20, 2011

”I feel like a crappy husband and father.” This was the response I got from a client recently when I asked him how he felt after seeing the movie, Courageous. I was intrigued...

A Quick Glance in the Mirror – Codependency

by Christy Aloisio | Oct 12, 2011

I recently had someone comment that discussing codependency feels like "man bashing." That some of the writing and talking I do about being independent and having power in a...

Trick or Treat

by Christy Aloisio | Oct 2, 2011

When you look into a child's eyes when they are all dressed up in their Halloween costumes, all you see is joy, fun, excitement. Dressing up and pretending to be someone they are...

The Vicious Triangle

by Christy Aloisio | Sep 23, 2011

We have finally come to the last characteristic of codependency, being passive in a relationship. Often feelings of being wronged or used; also called being "victimy" come with...

The Other Center

by Christy Aloisio | Sep 18, 2011

Very few people come in to my office, hear that they are codependent, jump up and say, "Wow you are right. Thanks so much my problems are solved!" It actually is quite the...

Is Your Abandonment Bigger Than You Are?

by Kathy | Sep 12, 2011

Is your abandonment bigger than you are? Does it haunt you in the middle of the night? Does it cause you to dig through your spouse's phone records & text messages? Do you...

The Dig of Dependency

by Christy Aloisio | Sep 11, 2011

Now it's time to look at the next characteristic of codependency; being dependent and needy. Codependents tend to cling onto relationships very quickly. They meet someone and...

The Unsexy Side of Therapy

by Christy Aloisio | Sep 2, 2011

You may have noticed how many articles we have on our website about counterdependency, but very little material on its counter part codependency. I've been told that the reason...

A Perfect Prison

by Kathy | Aug 31, 2011

I am a prisoner. My cell is my fear – fear of saying the wrong thing, doing the wrong thing, writing the wrong words, having the wrong opinion. What is it that makes a person...

Time to Get Real!

by Christy Aloisio | Aug 28, 2011

Feel free to come into my office and vent. Vent all you want about your partner and how "they do this!" or "they don't do this!" "They make me ..." Go ahead, spew this all over...

Group Therapy is Not Torture!

by Christy Aloisio | Aug 19, 2011

You should see the look on my clients faces when I suggest they go to group therapy. You would think I asked them to jump into a tank full of sharks with a cut on their leg....

Expectations Part Deux

by Christy Aloisio | Aug 5, 2011

So we already looked at how many implications the word "expectations" has on relationships. We have looked into how important it is that our partners know what our expectations...

Why Can’t He Read My Mind?!?

by Christy Aloisio | Jul 31, 2011

Expectations... Seems like such a simple word, but the implications of expectations are huge. I hear about expectations pratically everyday. "She didn't meet my expectations!" "I...

The Fantasy of Marriage

by Christy Aloisio | May 21, 2011

"My knight in shining armour is going to come and take me away from my family that doesn't care for me." "My wife will listen to me and meet my needs the way my family never...

Teachability

by Kathy | May 10, 2011

It is hard to hear the truth. Period. No one wants to hear “You’re critical.”, “You’re hard to talk to.”, “You’re manipulative like your mother!”, “You’re selfish.”, “You’re...

Find Your Sense of Self

by Christy Aloisio | May 8, 2011

Hello again! I know it has been a while since my last blog. I have been off enjoying time with my newborn son (of course he is 3 months old now, so not so sure I can call him a...

Facebook: Friend or Foe

by Christy Aloisio | Dec 6, 2010

Recently it seems as if Facebook comes up non-stop in my sessions. I have recently joked with clients that if I had a dollar for everytime I heard the word Facebook, I would be...

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