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YOU SAY COUNTER DEPENDENCE LIKE IT’S A BAD THING!
Say it loud and proud, “COUNTER-DEPENDENT!” That is how I am feeling right now. It began a couple of months ago when someone insinuated I should work toward eliminating my...
Insecurity in Your Marriage
How comfortable are you with being yourself to your partner? It seems hard to imagine that after living with someone for years, that we wouldn't be ourselves. However, in...
Marital Counseling and Truth
The pattern of losing trust with people begins early in our lives, regardless of whether or not your childhood was a safe and loving one or one of trauma and abuse. The breaking...
Obsessive Love
Are you guilty of obsessive love? There's a quote in the Jerry McGuire movie that always irks me. It is, "You complete me." One person cannot complete another....this is...
From Pain, Through Strength, Discover Hope
As therapists we are necessarily aware of the pain of the human condition. Some of this awareness is a result of our profession and much of it results from the work we do on...
Loss of Sexual Intimacy
Many couples complain of lessening sexual intimacy. This usually is when couples are on the verge of separation or divorce. This is when a therapist is called into the picture....
Cliff Dives
The opportunity for personal growth shows itself everyday in our lives. As a therapist, I am blessed to work with people who desire a better relationship with themselves. We are...
Good People and Affairs
Finding out about an affair is devastating. As the fear of the ultimate abandonment comes to life, the storm of self-blame, insecurity, and self-doubt can spin into...
Butters Ate My Shoes
Butters handles his loneliness and anxiety by sometimes eating my shoes. Heels and All! We had a scare recently where he had gotten into some old doggie meds. That was ruff!! In...
The Javelin of Anger
We can't control other people or outside situations, but we can do something about what we think and how we choose to react. We can only change and control ourselves. Seems...
Drowning Out Your Partner
Life can be very demanding. Between work, kids, spouse, bills, planning, doing....all of it. Relationships take a lot of work. Marriage takes a ton of work. Have you wondered why...
“Mind Blown” Hangover
Awesomeness, Mind Blown Hangover……anyone know what I’m talking about? Ever had life experiences that change your life? Alter your brain, your outlook? Make you want to change, do...
Change and Hope
Being able to see the hope is not a choice for everyone. Some days are a struggle. This is for you, who have struggled, grown, and remained hopeful even when all seemed hopeless....
Resentment Kills Marriages
Resentment is defined as "Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly." (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...
Passive Vs. Direct
Are you a people pleaser? A controller? A SuperMan? A SuperMom? Highly confident? Are you always in your head? Are you the fixer or rescuer? How would others describe you? The...
HEALthy Self…..Heal THY Self
How do you know when you have had enough and want to end a relationship? What is Love? Is there such a thing as "not enough love" or "someone just isn't good enough for me?" What...
Life Changes and Loss
Grief can mean a lot of things. Sometimes it's losing someone you love. Sometimes it's not having life go the way you thought it would. Sometimes it's about an old pain that...
Grieving Seasons of Loss
Yes, there are seasons in life. Some harder than others. This has been a season of grieving in my life. My father passed away last month and the grief has been larger than...
Pulling the Trigger on Abandonment
After fifty years, the loneliness caused by a father walking down the back stairs and out of his two year old daughter’s life is recreated by a husband who simply needs time...
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