Four Horsemen

Four Horsemen

In the Gottman Theory, John and Julie Gottman use an analogy to describe when a marriage could be on the brink of destruction called the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.  This analogy comes from the Christian Bible...
Communication

Communication

Do you sometimes get the feeling that your partner is not listening or understanding what you’re trying to say? Are there moments where you leave an argument feeling confused, alone and frustrated?  Lack of communication is one of the most common reasons why people...
Is Toxic Positivity Causing A Problem?

Is Toxic Positivity Causing A Problem?

Have you ever heard of toxic positivity?  A good example is when you’ve opened up to someone about your feelings or what you have been struggling with and they responded back with some type of an “at least” statement? “Well, at least, you still have ___.” “At...

Rewriting History

Rewriting history is when someone recounts certain events, but they spin or twist the facts around usually so that they are the victim of the story instead of having any fault in it.  The more times they tell the story, the truer the twisted version of the story...
Blame

Blame

Blame Is Ugly The Blame Game is a trap to keep you in a lower position in life. Blaming says, “there’s nothing I can do about how I feel or respond to this scenario. I have no control, so I’m a victim.” It also perpetuates the “she or he is the bad guy, villain, and...