by Kathy | Mar 22, 2015 | Abandonment, Anger, Communication, Marriage, Relationships, Uncategorized
Do you need to have the last word in an argument? Why is it so hard to let the conversation die without having the last say? What drives this compulsive need to make the last point? The most powerful last word may not be what you think! Why do we have to have the... by Kathy | Feb 1, 2015 | Divorce, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Marriage, Relationships, Self-Help, Uncategorized
Why is marriage so hard? We meet the person who fits us perfectly and the love flows so freely, it is difficult to imagine it could ever be hard. So why is it so tough? I have 4 major thoughts on this topic . . . First of all, our expectations are all out of whack. We... by Kathy | Oct 12, 2014 | Divorce, Grief, Relationships, Separation, Uncategorized
Divorce is a tragedy of the heart. I don’t encourage it and I certainly don’t judge anyone who has had to go through it. Sadly, I have joined those ranks recently myself. No matter the circumstance, it is not fun and no one should have to go through it! I stand by the... by Kathy | Feb 23, 2014 | Marriage
If there is one thing I’ve learned in all of my recovery work, it is do not trust a sense of urgency! That overwhelming sense that I must do something right now is usually a sign that whatever I’m about to do is unhealthy and not well thought out. Certainly there are... by Kathy | Feb 2, 2014 | Communication, Marriage, Relationships
So many couples entering marriage counseling cite communication as their chief complaint. The problem isn’t that they can’t communicate. The problem is they have stopped communicating with each other. Here are some things we do that keep us from having productive...