by Javan | May 20, 2012 | Marital Therapy, Uncategorized
Why does negativity stick? Why, when something negative crosses your path, do you feel upset and why does it linger? It seems too often that people define themselves based on the negative things that happened in their lives and on a daily basis. The positive... by Javan | May 10, 2012 | Marital Therapy, Uncategorized
Inspiration is everywhere in the work of a therapist. There is a fair amount of relationship pain that walks into my office. Many wish to have love, acceptance, and belonging….for the authentic self to be revealed, accepted, and loved. Not by what a person does... by Javan | Apr 5, 2012 | Marital Therapy, Uncategorized
“So, what happens next? How does my abandonment work in my marriage?” What happens next is our defenses kick into high gear. As adults, in our relationships, we can feel enraged, jealous, insecure, uncertain, anxious, and then blame something or someone... by Javan | Mar 9, 2012 | Marital Therapy
On a recent trip, I looked out the window of my airplane seat and noticed fluffy white clouds and a clear blue sky. Below the massive clouds were cities covered in darkness. I noticed that from my vantage point, the day was clear, blue and sunny. From below the... by Kathy | Feb 19, 2012 | Communication, Marriage, Relationships
People search the world over to find out how to have an awesome marriage, but do you know why they have such a hard time finding it? It is because they want what is easy, not the truth! The truth is, if you want an awesome marriage, you’re going to have to...