by Karen | Jul 20, 2014 | Anger, Uncategorized
Referring to reactivity, most think of it in a negative context. It is not always screeching (please refer to blog entitled ‘My Life as a Screech Owl’) nagging or crying. Reactivity can also be self-soothing, withdrawing, cutting off, and the list goes on. In fact, I... by Karen | Feb 2, 2014 | Differentiation
The Best of Everything is a movie made in 1959, complete with title song performed by Johnny Mathis. New York Times film critic, Howard Thompson, referred to it as a “handsome but curiously unstimulating drama.” On a superficial level, this is true. It is a... 
by Javan | Jan 10, 2014 | Family Counseling, Individual Therapy, Marital Therapy, Self-Help, Uncategorized
Growing up, my parents were my whole world. Their approval and reactions to my choices mattered the most. Eventually, my school teachers and friends joined my circle of intimacy. As a little girl, the approval of others helped mold my life choices. Pretty standard for... by Kathy | Dec 8, 2013 | Marriage
Are you an avoider? Don’t answer too quickly; avoidance can be so subtle that we are not even aware we are doing it! Why do we need to avoid? To keep harmony in our relationships. Most people view conflict as bad, so the idea is “if I have conflict with people,... by Kathy | Nov 24, 2013 | Marriage
I’ve often said that anger is not about the other person, and that is true, but what does that mean? How do you get control of out of control anger? Intense anger is really a result of a poorly differentiated “self”. Let me explain . . . Self-differentiation is...
