by Javan | Sep 14, 2012 | Marital Therapy, Uncategorized
This week has been heavy with abandonment, neediness, and despair. I often feel hopeful for many clients who are able to deeply process their pain, understand and accept their realities….but this week was heavy. Endevoring in the task to help people tear down... by Javan | Sep 6, 2012 | Marital Therapy, Uncategorized
After an affair, it’s hard to imagine that hope, healing, and trust could exist in any way in your relationship. From a recovery perspective, the reality of the state of the marriage is different from the way you, as the significant other who was cheated on, see it.... by Javan | Aug 16, 2012 | Marital Therapy, Uncategorized
One of my favorite moments in therapy is hearing someone say they are the opposite of what they are expressing. Just like, “I am NOT insecure! I would be happier if it wasn’t for her. She needs to stop doing x, y, z….and I would be fine!” Everyone suffers from... by Javan | Aug 12, 2012 | Marital Therapy, Uncategorized
What do you do after an affair? You are devastated, your spouse has cheated, he says he’s confused and doesn’t know what he wants. You feel more devastated. “What does he mean he doesn’t know what he wants and why is he hurting me this way!?!?... by Javan | Jul 22, 2012 | Marital Therapy
There is a contradiction between feeling love and hate, it’s obviously almost impossible to feel both emotions at the same time, or is it? Recently a client came into my office and was tearful about how hurtful and abandoning her mother was to her....