I had a few spectacular moments of clarity this week! I witnessed someone being very short with their elderly parent for what seemed like no reason other than impatience. Less...
The Amazing Parallels of Life
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Blogs By: Kathy
Where Do You Invest Your Gold?
If you won the lottery tomorrow, what would you do with the money? Would you spend it lavishly and wastefully? Or would you invest it in something that will protect it and help...
Do You Have Emotional Trust?
I had a couple in my office recently and they were going back and forth. I wondered why such a simple conversation was so difficult. Then it hit me ~ they don’t trust each...
The Saddest Thing I’ve Ever Seen
These past few weeks I've been in a position to witness one of the saddest things I've ever seen. A marriage destroyed by addiction. Oh, sure, marriages get destroyed by...
The Happiness Illusion
Does happiness seem to constantly be slipping through your fingers? Does it seem like the people in your life just won’t cooperate so that you can be happy? Do you have a...
A Perfect Love
I always knew my mother loved me unconditionally - and for that I will be forever grateful (thanks, Mom!) This did not appear to be the case, however, with my stepfather. I...
How To Get Your Spouse To Change
Want to know how to get your spouse to change? First, ponder this: What makes people change? Think about the times in your life when you have had significant breakthroughs and...
How To Have An Awesome Marriage
People search the world over to find out how to have an awesome marriage, but do you know why they have such a hard time finding it? It is because they want what is easy, not...
Do You Hear Yourself?
I work really hard with people on how to not take angry outbursts personally and to respond in a healthier way - but this one is for you – those with the angry retorts, venomous...
It’s Not About You!!
It's not about you, Dude! When your partner is talking about their feelings, it's not about YOU! Even when your partner is sharing their feelings about you, it's not about...
Truth and Grace
‘Truth comes from the mouths of babes.’ Isn’t that old cliché so true? Kids can say the most unadulterated, brutal truth with such ease! And when they say it, we don’t take...
What Way Did You Learn To Be Loved?
What way did you learn to be loved? I’m not talking about having coffee brought to you in bed, or being greeted at the door when you get home. Nor am I talking about romantic...
Wherever You Go, There You Are
There was a story of two men in ancient times of walled off cities. One man left his city and went on a trek seeking a better life. He arrived at a new city’s gates and asked...
Intimacy, Eyes, and Dogs
I had an immediate reaction to a study that my husband told me about. He read that ‘if you look a dog in the eye and speak kindly to it, it will behave better.’ My immediate...
What Would You Say To Yourself?
If you could go back in time, say 10, 20, or 30 years, what would you say to yourself? You’ve lived through some rough stuff since then. No doubt, you’ve gained wisdom from...
Take What You’ve Got and Be Thankful
The words stung and then floated off into the universe. I was only in my 20’s, attending a gathering of friends one night when a 4 year old said those seven powerful words to...
The Gift of the Magi
Frantically trying to decide what to give your loved one for Christmas this year? You are not alone. While some people delight in the season of gift giving, far too many people...
Broken Radar
Are you constantly scanning the environment trying to figure out what your partner is feeling? Do you and your partner seem to be “reading” each other all the time? If so, do...
How Old Is Your Inner Child?
How old is your inner child? The part of you that is tender, fragile, innocent, sweet, and easily hurt? We all walk around in adult bodies, making adult decisions, holding...
Angry Men . . . Passive Women
Imagine a guy driving his speedboat down the river. It’s a gorgeous day, the water is smooth like glass, and he’s zooming along having a great boat ride. He thinks it’s the...
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