‘Round about the end of January, many folks are beating themselves up and having feelings of failure in keeping their new year’s resolutions. There are other times any time of...
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Category: Affairs
Healing Trust Damage
Healing trust damage is a topic that is pretty common in my office. For example, how does one overcome the trust damage that occurs when a spouse has an affair? What if your...
Signs Your Spouse is Having An Affair
I recently read an article that was talking about what signs you should look for to tell if your spouse is cheating on you. The signs the article shared seemed to be right on...
Abandonment Issues
Everyone experiences loss at some point or another in their lives. But the type of abandonment issues I am discussing today, on my video, and in this week’s blog are deep and...
Pain from an Affair
Dealing with someone you love who feels distant, uncommitted, and is possibly having an affair can be gut wrenching and painful. The sting of betrayal, the lousy levels of...
Heart of Gratitude
Without the trust of clients it is not possible to provide good therapy. “We are all faced with a series of great opportunities - brilliantly disguised as insoluable problems.” -...
Why Distance and Separateness Are a Recipe for Marriage Disaster
It seems to happen to most couples at some time or another in a marriage. The distance or "roommate" bug comes up and bites you. Busy lives get in the way of spending time...
What Therapy Is, and What Therapy Is Not
I think many people who have not participated in therapy have some misconceptions of what therapy is and what it is not. Some of these misconceptions are what keep people from...
Abandonment Issues
Abandonment issues are all over the world. Everyone experiences loss at some point or another in their lives. But the abandonment issues I am discussing today, on my video, and...
Shame Fractures The Soul!
I had an amazing session this week with a client who was just beginning to see, and talk about, his shame. Something people all over the world are plagued with every single...
Affairs, Cheaters, and Lies
What do you do after you learn of affairs, cheating and lying? You are devastated, your spouse has cheated, he says he's confused and doesn't know what he wants. You feel more...
Sex Addiction and the Godfather: Part I
The movie, "The Godfather" is chalk full of family systems theory and addiction including sex addiction. What issue did the Godfather NOT suffer from! He seriously was void of a...
Are You An Over-Functioner?
Are you tired? Overworked? Overwhelmed? Feel like you can’t stop doing everything that you do or things will just fall apart? You are probably overfunctioning - BIG TIME!...
Why Do We Tell And Re-Tell Our Stories?
Know someone who is constantly telling the ‘stories’ of their life? Or is it you? We often tell our stories in great detail, with all of the drama, the exasperation, the angst,...
Victimy or Validating?
If you don’t know the difference between being a victim vs. validating your partner, you’re in trouble! Knowing the difference determines whether conflicts in your relationships...
Forgiveness ~ The Ultimate ‘F’ Word!
Why should we forgive someone who has hurt us? It feels like the most unnatural thing in the world, doesn’t it? It feels like we will hurt MORE if we forgive, doesn't it? If...
What’s At The Heart of YOUR Marital Issues?
Do you know what’s at the heart of your marital issues? What I’m talking about are the core issues, the deep fears and insecurities buried inside you and your spouse. If you...
What NOT To Do After An Affair
There is little less painful than witnessing the devastation people suffer in the wake of an affair. Handling it the wrong way, however, will most likely lead to the agony of a...
What Did We Get Married For Anyway?
Marriage vows make me chuckle. We get all dressed up and arrange all the pomp and circumstance to publicly profess our vows to one another. In reality, however, nobody has any...
The Amazing Parallels of Life
I had a few spectacular moments of clarity this week! I witnessed someone being very short with their elderly parent for what seemed like no reason other than impatience. Less...
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