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Category: Anger
Letting Go Of Resentment
by Nancy | Apr 6, 2015
Resentment is so incredibly common. We all feel wronged by someone at some time or another, and where there is blame, over and over again, there is resentment. Everyone walking...
The Art of Listening
by Nancy | Mar 29, 2015
As a therapist, you can imagine the importance of being a good listener. Listening is a must-master skill for this profession, and it is not one that we humans are born with,...
The Most Powerful Last Word
by Kathy | Mar 22, 2015
Do you need to have the last word in an argument? Why is it so hard to let the conversation die without having the last say? What drives this compulsive need to make the last...
Moving From Victim To Victorious!
by Kathy | Feb 16, 2015
When hardship happens in your life, how do you handle it? Do you metaphorically throw yourself down on the floor and have a kicking, screaming tantrum? Or do you accept it as...
We Never Resolve Anything…
by Javan | Nov 15, 2014
Are you the couple that avoids and distances when you don’t agree? Or, are you the raging couple? Do you fight constantly? In either situation, someone is trying to control the...
Defensiveness: Protecting The Heart
by Nancy | Oct 20, 2014
Defensiveness is an excellent indicator to help find woundedness in the human heart. After all, we defend places that hurt, like a lion protecting a paw with a thorn in it....
How To Develop Patience
by Nancy | Sep 30, 2014
Oh boy oh boy oh boy oh boy. Be careful what you ask for and for SURE be careful what you pray for. If you have prayed or otherwise asked the Universe for the trait of...
Emotional Anorexia
by imavexadmin | Sep 14, 2014
Most people are familiar with the term anorexia. When they hear the term they think of an eating disorder. People can also suffer from emotional anorexia. I see emotional...
Understanding the System Within the Self
by Karen | Jul 20, 2014
Referring to reactivity, most think of it in a negative context. It is not always screeching (please refer to blog entitled ‘My Life as a Screech Owl’) nagging or crying....
ANGER 101 (or Making Good Use of Anger)
by Karen | Jan 12, 2014
Making good use of anger? Come on, really? We are taught from a very young age that anger is wrong and to express anger is even worse. So what the heck am I doing trying to say...
My Life As A Screech Owl: Living in Reactivity
by Karen | Mar 26, 2013
Have you ever been in a relationship that made you feel like a screech owl? Wait, some people believe no one can ‘make’ us feel anything; we cause ourselves to have particular...
Marriage: The Well Oiled Machine
by Christy Aloisio | Apr 15, 2012
Marriage counseling is not really about fixing marriage. Sounds weird, yes I know. But marriage counseling is about fixing you. You are the only one that you can control, and you...
Coping With Tragedy
by Kathy | Jun 13, 2010
In an instant, life changed forever for 2 people and their families yesterday. A young teenage boy set out on his moped for a friend’s house with surely nothing on his mind but...
Emotional Anorexia
by Christy Aloisio | Jan 1, 1970
Most people are familiar with the term anorexia. When they hear the term they think of an eating disorder. People can also suffer from emotional anorexia. I see emotional...
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