In therapy, as in life, it is essential to remember that each individual and each relationship is unique. Each story is special. There is no magic bullet, no ‘one size fits all...
What is a common missing ingredient in the couples that frequent my office? It is present in the beginning of a relationship. We heap it on and lavish our new love with it. Then,...
Having intimacy in a marriage is not just about having a healthy sexual relationship. There is emotional intimacy as well that is being connected on a deep emotional level. Not...
As parents, spouses, friends, and family members, we often communicate unintentional messages that get us into trouble! To make matters worse, our partners have “guessers” that...
There tends to be a lot of finger pointing that happens in my office. “But he did this or you should see the way she tries to control me.” It is the focus on what the other...
It seems as though just about every client grimaces a bit when I share this piece of feedback. “People are happier when they can see themselves outside of their...
As most brides are walking down the aisle the last thought going through their heads is most likely how difficult it may be one day to open up and be vulnerable with their...
Most people are familiar with the term anorexia. When they hear the term they think of an eating disorder. People can also suffer from emotional anorexia. I see emotional...
Does true love exist? Most of us believe in true love to an extent and see it as magical and intoxicating. We associate true love with very powerful feelings, but is that it? If...
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Being happy is a choice” or “Choose to have a good day”? I’ve recently noticed a trend in “positive thinking” speakers and authors. I agree, we...
So many couples entering marriage counseling cite communication as their chief complaint. The problem isn’t that they can’t communicate. The problem is they have stopped...
Are you tired? Overworked? Overwhelmed? Feel like you can’t stop doing everything that you do or things will just fall apart? You are probably overfunctioning - BIG TIME!...
Know someone who is constantly telling the ‘stories’ of their life? Or is it you? We often tell our stories in great detail, with all of the drama, the exasperation, the angst,...
If you don’t know the difference between being a victim vs. validating your partner, you’re in trouble! Knowing the difference determines whether conflicts in your relationships...
Why should we forgive someone who has hurt us? It feels like the most unnatural thing in the world, doesn’t it? It feels like we will hurt MORE if we forgive, doesn't it? If...
Do you know what’s at the heart of your marital issues? What I’m talking about are the core issues, the deep fears and insecurities buried inside you and your spouse. If you...
There is little less painful than witnessing the devastation people suffer in the wake of an affair. Handling it the wrong way, however, will most likely lead to the agony of a...
Marriage vows make me chuckle. We get all dressed up and arrange all the pomp and circumstance to publicly profess our vows to one another. In reality, however, nobody has any...
Codependence hurts. It is giving and giving and giving more, wanting something desperately in return – for someone to care enough to love us the same way in return. But what...
I had a few spectacular moments of clarity this week! I witnessed someone being very short with their elderly parent for what seemed like no reason other than impatience. Less...
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