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Forgiveness ~ The Ultimate ‘F’ Word!
Why should we forgive someone who has hurt us? It feels like the most unnatural thing in the world, doesn’t it? It feels like we will hurt MORE if we forgive, doesn't it? If...
What’s At The Heart of YOUR Marital Issues?
Do you know what’s at the heart of your marital issues? What I’m talking about are the core issues, the deep fears and insecurities buried inside you and your spouse. If you...
What NOT To Do After An Affair
There is little less painful than witnessing the devastation people suffer in the wake of an affair. Handling it the wrong way, however, will most likely lead to the agony of a...
What Did We Get Married For Anyway?
Marriage vows make me chuckle. We get all dressed up and arrange all the pomp and circumstance to publicly profess our vows to one another. In reality, however, nobody has any...
The Driver of Codependence? Abandonment
Codependence hurts. It is giving and giving and giving more, wanting something desperately in return – for someone to care enough to love us the same way in return. But what...
The Amazing Parallels of Life
I had a few spectacular moments of clarity this week! I witnessed someone being very short with their elderly parent for what seemed like no reason other than impatience. Less...
How To Have An Awesome Marriage
People search the world over to find out how to have an awesome marriage, but do you know why they have such a hard time finding it? It is because they want what is easy, not...
Do You Hear Yourself?
I work really hard with people on how to not take angry outbursts personally and to respond in a healthier way - but this one is for you – those with the angry retorts, venomous...
Broken Radar
Are you constantly scanning the environment trying to figure out what your partner is feeling? Do you and your partner seem to be “reading” each other all the time? If so, do...
After a Fight, An Olive Branch Eases the Pain
Arguments are a normal part of every relationship. But knowing how to reconnect after a fight can feel much harder than the conflict itself. After a heated argument, many couples...
Codependent Polling – What Do You Think?
Stop Polling: Trust Yourself in Counseling and Recovery in Carmel, Indiana Are you guilty of codependent polling? You might ask yourself: “I have this problem. What would you...
Counseling – About Christy Aloisio
How Did I Get Into Counseling? I was born and raised in Indianapolis with an older brother and a younger brother (yes, I do have middle child syndrome). I attended Decatur...
Communication – Commanding vs. Demanding
Understanding the Difference Between Commanding and Demanding in Relationships Healthy relationship communication is essential for long-term connection and satisfaction. One...
Emotional Anorexia
Most people are familiar with the term anorexia. When they hear the term they think of an eating disorder. People can also suffer from emotional anorexia. I see emotional...
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