The Happiness Illusion

by Kathy | Mar 11, 2012

Does happiness seem to constantly be slipping through your fingers? Does it seem like the people in your life just won’t cooperate so that you can be happy? Do you have a...

A Perfect Love

by Kathy | Mar 4, 2012

I always knew my mother loved me unconditionally - and for that I will be forever grateful (thanks, Mom!) This did not appear to be the case, however, with my stepfather. I...

How To Get Your Spouse To Change

by Kathy | Feb 26, 2012

Want to know how to get your spouse to change? First, ponder this: What makes people change? Think about the times in your life when you have had significant breakthroughs and...

How To Have An Awesome Marriage

by Kathy | Feb 19, 2012

People search the world over to find out how to have an awesome marriage, but do you know why they have such a hard time finding it? It is because they want what is easy, not...

Do You Hear Yourself?

by Kathy | Feb 12, 2012

I work really hard with people on how to not take angry outbursts personally and to respond in a healthier way - but this one is for you – those with the angry retorts, venomous...

It’s Not About You!!

by Kathy | Feb 5, 2012

It's not about you, Dude! When your partner is talking about their feelings, it's not about YOU! Even when your partner is sharing their feelings about you, it's not about...

Truth and Grace

by Kathy | Jan 29, 2012

‘Truth comes from the mouths of babes.’ Isn’t that old cliché so true? Kids can say the most unadulterated, brutal truth with such ease! And when they say it, we don’t take...

What Way Did You Learn To Be Loved?

by Kathy | Jan 22, 2012

What way did you learn to be loved? I’m not talking about having coffee brought to you in bed, or being greeted at the door when you get home. Nor am I talking about romantic...

Wherever You Go, There You Are

by Kathy | Jan 16, 2012

There was a story of two men in ancient times of walled off cities. One man left his city and went on a trek seeking a better life. He arrived at a new city’s gates and asked...

What Would You Say To Yourself?

by Kathy | Dec 31, 2011

If you could go back in time, say 10, 20, or 30 years, what would you say to yourself? You’ve lived through some rough stuff since then. You’ve gained wisdom from life...

Take What You’ve Got and Be Thankful

by Kathy | Dec 24, 2011

The words stung and then floated off into the universe. I was only in my 20’s, attending a gathering of friends one night when a 4 year old said those seven powerful words to...

Angry Men . . . Passive Women

by Kathy | Nov 27, 2011

Imagine a guy driving his speedboat down the river. It’s a gorgeous day, the water is smooth like glass, and he’s zooming along having a great boat ride. He thinks it’s the...

Angry Women . . . Passive Men

by Kathy | Nov 20, 2011

She practically levitated off my couch. The anger this woman had been storing for years was spilling out of her and all her husband could do was sink deeper into the sofa. By...

Pin The Tail On The Donkey

by Kathy | Nov 6, 2011

Are you sick of not getting your needs met? Do you feel like you have been screaming at the top of your lungs, but your partner claims to have no idea what you want from them? ...

Stuffing & Suffering

by Kathy | Oct 29, 2011

Are you a Stuffer? When something bad or unpleasant happens, do you dismiss it, minimize it, or just quit talking about it? Maybe you try to talk about it, but, when met with...

Mirror, Mirror

by Kathy | Oct 14, 2011

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? A good person who is kind, generous, and loving? Do you see a good parent, spouse, son or daughter, employee, friend? That’s what...

Porn Ponderings

by Kathy | Oct 7, 2011

She thinks it's cheating, he thinks it's no big deal. Neither are right. The truth lies somewhere in the middle. Honestly speaking, porn creates a lot of clients for...

Reflection Reflections

by Kathy | Oct 1, 2011

She catches her reflection in the window. "How appropriate," she thinks, "I'm barely visible." "Where did I go? I used to have ideas, thoughts, beliefs, opinions, interests of...

What’s Under YOUR Hood?

by Kathy | Sep 23, 2011

People don’t get it. They come to couple’s counseling presumably to fix their relationship, but what they often are really after is an overhaul on their partner! Let’s face...

“I just can’t talk to you!!” (and other forms of Emotional Cut-Off)

by Kathy | Sep 6, 2011

“I just can’t talk to you!!”, she screamed, and then she stalked out of the room and slammed the door. He knew that the rest of the day he would get the silent treatment. Has...

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