As a couples counselor, one of the things I regularly do is teach people to see things through their loved one’s eyes. Honestly, this is one of the most powerful ways to love...
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Category: Marriage
How To Feel Your Feelings!
Do you really feel your feelings? Do you allow yourself to feel the depths of your emotions? My guess is, probably not. There is a lot at stake!! If you allow yourself to be...
Is Emotional Cut-Off Damaging Your Relationships?
Is emotional cut-off damaging your relationships? Maybe it is, but you don’t even realize that you are doing it! Emotional cut-off is an all too common, primitive mechanism we...
Do You Really Want Change In Your Life?
Do you really want change in your life? So many people do. They complain about where they are at, and they say they want change, but what does it really take to get there? ...
Abandonment Issues
Abandonment issues are all over the world. Everyone experiences loss at some point or another in their lives. But the abandonment issues I am discussing today, on my video, and...
What’s Your Status In Victimville?
Are you a victim? Many people think, “Yes!”, because others have wronged them. And that may be true, however, read on! You may be more of a victim of a victim mentality than...
A Vital Lesson In Life
Henry Cloud was once asked “What is the most important lesson we need to teach our children?” He answered very simply, “How to deal with loss.” This very wise and profound...
Eliminate Your Shame Voices!
If you have shame, you have shame voices. Shame is the deep belief that we are bad, stupid, worthless, etc. The shaming voices are the messages that play in our head,...
What Not To Trust!
If there is one thing I’ve learned in all of my recovery work, it is do not trust a sense of urgency! That overwhelming sense that I must do something right now is usually a...
8 Signs of a Rescuer
Would your friends describe you as someone who “would do anything for anybody”? Or as someone who “goes way out of his way to help people”? Maybe your spouse complains because...
Shame Fractures The Soul!
I had an amazing session this week with a client who was just beginning to see, and talk about, his shame. Something people all over the world are plagued with every single...
Why Couples Can’t Communicate
So many couples entering marriage counseling cite communication as their chief complaint. The problem isn’t that they can’t communicate. The problem is they have stopped...
The Source of Misery In Your Marriage
I’ve been counseling couples now for 8 ½ years. I’ve seen them at every stage and, of course, I’ve experienced most of those stages myself. With all of that to witness, one...
How To End An Argument
The tension is so thick you could cut it with a knife. You may not even be speaking to (or even looking at) one another, so how do you go about ending an argument without...
Are You In A No-Win Argument?
Nothing drives me crazier than being in a no-win argument. What’s worse is when I don’t even know that I’m in one, but I keep arguing thinking I will get my point heard! Here’s...
Are You A Manipulator?
I contend that we all manipulate others in some fashion or another. That’s not good news to most of us because we all have a bad association with that word, don’t we? To be...
The Difference Between ‘In Love’ and ‘Love’
What’s the difference between ‘in love’ and ‘love’? I hear people all the time say, “I love them, but I’m not in love with them anymore.” How do you know if you love somebody or...
How Does True Love Go So Wrong?
It is a question faced by so many couples that start out with a love so strong, so consuming, so sure that it is unfathomable that they could ever not love each other. And yet,...
Who Can You Trust?
Ever wonder how to know who you can trust and who you can’t? Don’t just go by how they treat you, pay attention to how they treat others! Certainly you’ll want to watch their...
Are You An Avoider?
Are you an avoider? Don’t answer too quickly; avoidance can be so subtle that we are not even aware we are doing it! Why do we need to avoid? To keep harmony in our...
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