What’s Missing In Marriage?

by Kathy | Dec 5, 2014

What is a common missing ingredient in the couples that frequent my office? It is present in the beginning of a relationship. We heap it on and lavish our new love with it. Then,...

Relationship Dependency

by Javan | Nov 22, 2014

You CAN change the cycle of pain you came from..Rewrite your story for hope, for change, for unconditional love. What triggers you into a state of fear? What pushes your buttons?...

We Never Resolve Anything…

by Javan | Nov 15, 2014

Are you the couple that avoids and distances when you don’t agree? Or, are you the raging couple? Do you fight constantly? In either situation, someone is trying to control the...

Are You Too Needy?

by Kathy | Oct 26, 2014

Are you too needy? Most of us would never admit to such a thing, yet we all have a little clinginess in us. How do you know when you are too needy in a relationship? Signs Here...

Divorce Is A Tragedy Of The Heart

by Kathy | Oct 12, 2014

Divorce is a tragedy of the heart. I don’t encourage it and I certainly don’t judge anyone who has had to go through it. Sadly, I have joined those ranks recently myself. No...

Why is it all My fault?

by Javan | Oct 3, 2014

Do you ever wonder how your spouse seemed one way when you first met but then turned out to be a totally different person after a few years?? At first, you can’t imagine how this...

Resentment and Anger in Marriage

by Javan | Sep 26, 2014

Resentment is defined as “Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.” (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...

Where Does Narcissism Come From?

by Nancy | Sep 23, 2014

Let me begin today by saying that I am not a fan of labels at all. I think that labels are for people who need to group people together for their own purposes, like insurance...

Emotional Anorexia

by imavexadmin | Sep 14, 2014

Most people are familiar with the term anorexia. When they hear the term they think of an eating disorder. People can also suffer from emotional anorexia. I see emotional...

Oh Lord, It’s Hard To Be Humble

by Nancy | Sep 7, 2014

So you've heard about the boy scout who received a merit badge for humility, and promptly had it taken away because he wore it? It's like that old saying goes, you can be humble...

Positive Energy is Contagious!

by Javan | Sep 7, 2014

Have you ever heard the phrase, “Being happy is a choice” or “Choose to have a good day”? I’ve recently noticed a trend in “positive thinking” speakers and authors. I agree, we...

Does True Love Exist?

by Kathy | Sep 7, 2014

Does true love exist? Most of us believe in true love to an extent and see it as magical and intoxicating. We associate true love with very powerful feelings, but is that it? If...

Beware of Therapy! It Can Be a Game Changer.

by Karen | Jul 6, 2014

Relationship trauma is often what brings people to therapy. It can take the form of affairs; emotional cutoff; discovering porn attraction or addiction; physical, emotional, or...

Why Couples Can’t Communicate

by Kathy | Feb 2, 2014

So many couples entering marriage counseling cite communication as their chief complaint. The problem isn’t that they can’t communicate. The problem is they have stopped...

Where To Find The Cure For Abandonment

by Kathy | Apr 28, 2013

Where do you find the cure for abandonment? People who suffer from abandonment experience such excruciating pain that they will do anything to make it go away. Usually,...

My Life As A Screech Owl: Living in Reactivity

by Karen | Mar 26, 2013

Have you ever been in a relationship that made you feel like a screech owl? Wait, some people believe no one can ‘make’ us feel anything; we cause ourselves to have particular...

Yes, You Do Need To Change

by Javan | Oct 21, 2012

Do you need to change? A couple of comedians recently provided inspiration to me. Inspiration about the journey of life and how we spend our time. Adam Sandler came into my life...

Are You An Over-Functioner?

by Kathy | Jun 3, 2012

Are you tired? Overworked? Overwhelmed? Feel like you can’t stop doing everything that you do or things will just fall apart? You are probably overfunctioning - BIG TIME!...

Why Do We Tell And Re-Tell Our Stories?

by Kathy | May 27, 2012

Know someone who is constantly telling the ‘stories’ of their life? Or is it you? We often tell our stories in great detail, with all of the drama, the exasperation, the angst,...

Victimy or Validating?

by Kathy | May 20, 2012

If you don’t know the difference between being a victim vs. validating your partner, you’re in trouble! Knowing the difference determines whether conflicts in your relationships...

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