Divorce Is A Tragedy Of The Heart

by Kathy | Oct 12, 2014

Divorce is a tragedy of the heart. I don’t encourage it and I certainly don’t judge anyone who has had to go through it. Sadly, I have joined those ranks recently myself. No...

Why is it all My fault?

by Javan | Oct 3, 2014

Do you ever wonder how your spouse seemed one way when you first met but then turned out to be a totally different person after a few years?? At first, you can’t imagine how this...

How To Develop Patience

by Nancy | Sep 30, 2014

Oh boy oh boy oh boy oh boy. Be careful what you ask for and for SURE be careful what you pray for. If you have prayed or otherwise asked the Universe for the trait of...

Resentment and Anger in Marriage

by Javan | Sep 26, 2014

Resentment is defined as “Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.” (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...

Where Does Narcissism Come From?

by Nancy | Sep 23, 2014

Let me begin today by saying that I am not a fan of labels at all. I think that labels are for people who need to group people together for their own purposes, like insurance...

Emotional Anorexia

by imavexadmin | Sep 14, 2014

Most people are familiar with the term anorexia. When they hear the term they think of an eating disorder. People can also suffer from emotional anorexia. I see emotional...

Oh Lord, It’s Hard To Be Humble

by Nancy | Sep 7, 2014

So you've heard about the boy scout who received a merit badge for humility, and promptly had it taken away because he wore it? It's like that old saying goes, you can be humble...

Positive Energy is Contagious!

by Javan | Sep 7, 2014

Have you ever heard the phrase, “Being happy is a choice” or “Choose to have a good day”? I’ve recently noticed a trend in “positive thinking” speakers and authors. I agree, we...

Does True Love Exist?

by Kathy | Sep 7, 2014

Does true love exist? Most of us believe in true love to an extent and see it as magical and intoxicating. We associate true love with very powerful feelings, but is that it? If...

Why Couples Can’t Communicate

by Kathy | Feb 2, 2014

So many couples entering marriage counseling cite communication as their chief complaint. The problem isn’t that they can’t communicate. The problem is they have stopped...

My Life As A Screech Owl: Living in Reactivity

by Karen | Mar 26, 2013

Have you ever been in a relationship that made you feel like a screech owl? Wait, some people believe no one can ‘make’ us feel anything; we cause ourselves to have particular...

Are You An Over-Functioner?

by Kathy | Jun 3, 2012

Are you tired? Overworked? Overwhelmed? Feel like you can’t stop doing everything that you do or things will just fall apart? You are probably overfunctioning - BIG TIME!...

Why Do We Tell And Re-Tell Our Stories?

by Kathy | May 27, 2012

Know someone who is constantly telling the ‘stories’ of their life? Or is it you? We often tell our stories in great detail, with all of the drama, the exasperation, the angst,...

Victimy or Validating?

by Kathy | May 20, 2012

If you don’t know the difference between being a victim vs. validating your partner, you’re in trouble! Knowing the difference determines whether conflicts in your relationships...

Forgiveness ~ The Ultimate ‘F’ Word!

by Kathy | May 13, 2012

Why should we forgive someone who has hurt us? It feels like the most unnatural thing in the world, doesn’t it? It feels like we will hurt MORE if we forgive, doesn't it? If...

What NOT To Do After An Affair

by Kathy | Apr 29, 2012

There is little less painful than witnessing the devastation people suffer in the wake of an affair. Handling it the wrong way, however, will most likely lead to the agony of a...

What Did We Get Married For Anyway?

by Kathy | Apr 22, 2012

Marriage vows make me chuckle. We get all dressed up and arrange all the pomp and circumstance to publicly profess our vows to one another. In reality, however, nobody has any...

The Driver of Codependence? Abandonment

by Kathy | Apr 15, 2012

Codependence hurts. It is giving and giving and giving more, wanting something desperately in return – for someone to care enough to love us the same way in return. But what...

The Amazing Parallels of Life

by Kathy | Apr 8, 2012

I had a few spectacular moments of clarity this week! I witnessed someone being very short with their elderly parent for what seemed like no reason other than impatience. Less...

Where Do You Invest Your Gold?

by Kathy | Apr 1, 2012

If you won the lottery tomorrow, what would you do with the money? Would you spend it lavishly and wastefully? Or would you invest it in something that will protect it and help...

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