Resentmentis defined as "Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly." (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...
Resentment and Anger in Marriage
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Category: Relationships
Where Does Narcissism Come From?
Let me begin today by saying that I am not a fan of labels at all. I think that labels are for people who need to group people together for their own purposes, like insurance...
Emotional Anorexia
Most people are familiar with the term anorexia. When they hear the term they think of an eating disorder. People can also suffer from emotional anorexia. I see emotional...
Oh Lord, It’s Hard To Be Humble
So you've heard about the boy scout who received a merit badge for humility, and promptly had it taken away because he wore it? It's like that old saying goes, you can be humble...
Positive Energy is Contagious!
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Being happy is a choice” or “Choose to have a good day”? I’ve recently noticed a trend in “positive thinking” speakers and authors. I agree, we...
Does True Love Exist?
Does true love exist? Most of us believe in true love to an extent and see it as magical and intoxicating. We associate true love with very powerful feelings, but is that it? If...
Beware of Therapy! It Can Be a Game Changer.
Relationship trauma is often what brings people to therapy. It can take the form of affairs; emotional cutoff; discovering porn attraction or addiction; physical, emotional, or...
Why Couples Can’t Communicate
So many couples entering marriage counseling cite communication as their chief complaint. The problem isn’t that they can’t communicate. The problem is they have stopped...
Where To Find The Cure For Abandonment
Where do you find the cure for abandonment? People who suffer from abandonment experience such excruciating pain that they will do anything to make it go away. Usually,...
My Life As A Screech Owl: Living in Reactivity
Have you ever been in a relationship that made you feel like a screech owl? Wait, some people believe no one can ‘make’ us feel anything; we cause ourselves to have particular...
Yes, You Do Need To Change
Do you need to change? A couple of comedians recently provided inspiration to me. Inspiration about the journey of life and how we spend our time. Adam Sandler came into my life...
Enmeshment 101
The first order of business in Enmeshment 101 is learning what it is. Most people would be a little surprised to hear about being too close in a marriage What's wrong with...
Are You An Over-Functioner?
Are you tired? Overworked? Overwhelmed? Feel like you can’t stop doing everything that you do or things will just fall apart? You are probably overfunctioning - BIG TIME!...
Why Do We Tell And Re-Tell Our Stories?
Know someone who is constantly telling the ‘stories’ of their life? Or is it you? We often tell our stories in great detail, with all of the drama, the exasperation, the angst,...
Victimy or Validating?
If you don’t know the difference between being a victim vs. validating your partner, you’re in trouble! Knowing the difference determines whether conflicts in your relationships...
Forgiveness ~ The Ultimate ‘F’ Word!
Why should we forgive someone who has hurt us? It feels like the most unnatural thing in the world, doesn’t it? It feels like we will hurt MORE if we forgive, doesn't it? If...
What NOT To Do After An Affair
There is little less painful than witnessing the devastation people suffer in the wake of an affair. Handling it the wrong way, however, will most likely lead to the agony of a...
What Did We Get Married For Anyway?
Marriage vows make me chuckle. We get all dressed up and arrange all the pomp and circumstance to publicly profess our vows to one another. In reality, however, nobody has any...
The Driver of Codependence? Abandonment
Codependence hurts. It is giving and giving and giving more, wanting something desperately in return – for someone to care enough to love us the same way in return. But what...
The Amazing Parallels of Life
I had a few spectacular moments of clarity this week! I witnessed someone being very short with their elderly parent for what seemed like no reason other than impatience. Less...
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