“We have communication issues.” I hear this often from couples regarding intimacy issues. So why is it so hard for people who love each other to just talk? First, we have to...
“Why Can’t We Just Talk?”
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Category: Self-Help
Enmeshment
Growing up, my parents were my whole world. Their approval and reactions to my choices mattered the most. Eventually, my school teachers and friends joined my circle of intimacy....
How Angry Communication Hurts Marriage
Are you the couple that avoids and distances when you don’t agree? Or, are you the raging couple? Fighting against each other constantly? In either situation, someone is trying...
Unfulfilled Dreams
If a bee doubted how it could rest on a single flower petal, we wouldn't have honey. Yet, the bee does no such thing. The bee does what it is built to do...It makes honey without...
Defensiveness and Resistance
The resistance to acknowledge childhood and family of origin issues is common. What you learn and tell yourself about your life experiences in your childhood is crucial to...
You are Your Thanks-Giving!
Good, emotional health isn't just about knowing what goes wrong. It's also about knowing what works! Do you know what works for you. Knowing your own strengths, your own...
Balance for Hope
Busy holiday schedules are beginning, which means good and bad stress. Remembering to balance the positive in your life with the negative experiences is important. Without...
It’s all MY fault?!?!?
Do you ever wonder how your spouse seemed one way when you first met but then turned out to be a totally different person after a few years?? At first, you can't imagine how this...
Life Stressors and Anxiety
Managing stress in a constantly spinning world is challenging. Stress creates anxiety, worry, and a sense of loss. Life isn't about how much you do, but the quality of what you...
Masking Yourself in Marriage
Last week I wrote about not being true to your motives and intentions with your loved ones. I gave a few examples of how this "being not your true self" shows up in your family...
INSPIRATION
Life is a mirror back to me, reminding me that I have within me, all that I need and all that I am. When I forget, when I look outside myself, I have forgotten a simple and...
Insecurity in Your Marriage
How comfortable are you with being yourself to your partner? It seems hard to imagine that after living with someone for years, that we wouldn't be ourselves. However, in...
Obsessive Love
Are you guilty of obsessive love? There's a quote in the Jerry McGuire movie that always irks me. It is, "You complete me." One person cannot complete another....this is...
Loss of Sexual Intimacy
Many couples complain of lessening sexual intimacy. This usually is when couples are on the verge of separation or divorce. This is when a therapist is called into the picture....
Cliff Dives
The opportunity for personal growth shows itself everyday in our lives. As a therapist, I am blessed to work with people who desire a better relationship with themselves. We are...
Good People and Affairs
Finding out about an affair is devastating. As the fear of the ultimate abandonment comes to life, the storm of self-blame, insecurity, and self-doubt can spin into...
Butters Ate My Shoes
Butters handles his loneliness and anxiety by sometimes eating my shoes. Heels and All! We had a scare recently where he had gotten into some old doggie meds. That was ruff!! In...
The Javelin of Anger
We can't control other people or outside situations, but we can do something about what we think and how we choose to react. We can only change and control ourselves. Seems...
Drowning Out Your Partner
Life can be very demanding. Between work, kids, spouse, bills, planning, doing....all of it. Relationships take a lot of work. Marriage takes a ton of work. Have you wondered why...
Do You Know What Kind of Eggs You Like?
If you have seen the movie Runaway Bride you have been introduced to the concept of differentiation. You saw an undifferentiated Maggie Carpenter adopt the interests and hobbies...
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