Butters Ate My Shoes

by Javan | Aug 30, 2013

Butters handles his loneliness and anxiety by sometimes eating my shoes. Heels and All! We had a scare recently where he had gotten into some old doggie meds. That was ruff!! In...

The Javelin of Anger

by Javan | Aug 23, 2013

We can't control other people or outside situations, but we can do something about what we think and how we choose to react. We can only change and control ourselves. Seems...

Drowning Out Your Partner

by Javan | Aug 18, 2013

Life can be very demanding. Between work, kids, spouse, bills, planning, doing....all of it. Relationships take a lot of work. Marriage takes a ton of work. Have you wondered why...

Do You Know What Kind of Eggs You Like?

by Karen | Aug 11, 2013

If you have seen the movie Runaway Bride you have been introduced to the concept of differentiation. You saw an undifferentiated Maggie Carpenter adopt the interests and hobbies...

“Mind Blown” Hangover

by Javan | Aug 10, 2013

Awesomeness, Mind Blown Hangover……anyone know what I’m talking about? Ever had life experiences that change your life? Alter your brain, your outlook? Make you want to change, do...

Change and Hope

by Javan | Aug 2, 2013

Being able to see the hope is not a choice for everyone. Some days are a struggle. This is for you, who have struggled, grown, and remained hopeful even when all seemed hopeless....

Resentment Kills Marriages

by Javan | Jul 21, 2013

Resentment is defined as "Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly." (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...

Passive Vs. Direct

by Javan | Jul 11, 2013

Are you a people pleaser? A controller? A SuperMan? A SuperMom? Highly confident? Are you always in your head? Are you the fixer or rescuer? How would others describe you? The...

HEALthy Self…..Heal THY Self

by Javan | Jul 3, 2013

How do you know when you have had enough and want to end a relationship? What is Love? Is there such a thing as "not enough love" or "someone just isn't good enough for me?" What...

Life Changes and Loss

by Javan | Jun 26, 2013

Grief can mean a lot of things. Sometimes it's losing someone you love. Sometimes it's not having life go the way you thought it would. Sometimes it's about an old pain that...

Grieving Seasons of Loss

by Javan | Jun 13, 2013

Yes, there are seasons in life. Some harder than others. This has been a season of grieving in my life. My father passed away last month and the grief has been larger than...

“You never support me!”

by Javan | Apr 28, 2013

Do you feel like your husband doesn't understand you or do what you need? Do you feel disappointed or deeply hurt? Most people have needs and wants of their loved ones. When...

Compassion

by Javan | Apr 21, 2013

Compassion…. a simple word, a simple concept, a lovely experience to both provide and receive. However, compassion is rarely provided when it's needed. It’s easy to provide...

“I don’t feel APPRECIATED!”

by Javan | Apr 7, 2013

The definition of appreciation is "Recognition of the quality, value, significance, or magnitude of people and things." (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/appreciation. April,...

Processing Pain

by Javan | Mar 7, 2013

Emotional recovery from any painful situation involves deep processing. If you're asking yourself why, you've come to the right place. I can provide some clarity around why...

Grief and Grieving

by Javan | Feb 10, 2013

Grief and Grieving I am a Mom Who has not experienced child birth Who does not know what its like to send her child off to school Or watch my baby sleep I am a Mom without...

FEAR…..Muuahahahahahaaaaaaa!

by Javan | Oct 26, 2012

Well it IS almost Halloween! Are you aware that you make choices out of fear and worry? OK, are you aware of how many choices you make out of fear and worry? Some choices that...

Codependency – The Vicious Triangle

by Christy Aloisio | Sep 23, 2011

We have finally come to the last characteristic of codependency, being passive in a relationship. Often feelings of being wronged or used; also called being "victimy" come with...

Codependent – Other Centered

by Christy Aloisio | Sep 18, 2011

Very few people come in to my office, hear that they are codependent, jump up and say, "Wow you are right. Thanks so much my problems are solved!" It actually is quite the...

The Unsexy Side of Therapy – Codependency

by Christy Aloisio | Sep 2, 2011

You may have noticed how many articles we have on our website about counterdependency, but very little material on its counter part codependency. I've been told that the reason...

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