What Not To Trust!

If there is one thing I’ve learned in all of my recovery work, it is do not trust a sense of urgency!  That overwhelming sense that I must do something right now is usually a sign that whatever I’m about to do is unhealthy and not well thought out. Certainly there are...

8 Signs of a Rescuer

Would your friends describe you as someone who “would do anything for anybody”?  Or as someone who “goes way out of his way to help people”?  Maybe your spouse complains because you volunteer too much at the church or that you’ll “go help a neighbor re-roof his house,...

Are You A Manipulator?

I contend that we all manipulate others in some fashion or another.  That’s not good news to most of us because we all have a bad association with that word, don’t we?  To be fair, most of us don’t even realize we are doing it!! Manipulation is sort of an ‘under the...

You Spot It, You Got It!

It never ceases to amaze me.  The longer I work with a couple and the more layers that get peeled back, it is fascinating how very much alike the two people are!  I heard an interesting concept awhile back that perfectly sums up what it is that I am witnessing . . ....