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Category: Marital Therapy
I Feel Abandoned In My Marriage
If you read part one of abandonment,you have a bit of an understanding of howabandonment feelings arecreated in your life. What this looks like in current life, as an adult, is...
The Honeymoon is Over
If your sense of who you are is definedby judgments or actions of others, then you are experiencing enmeshment. Over investment in others and less investment in...
Pain from an Affair
Dealing with someone you love who feels distant, uncommitted, and is possibly having an affair can be gut wrenching and painful. The sting of betrayal, the lousy levelsof...
The Power of Gratitude
Gratitude is one of the best daily practices you can foster. If you are on Facebook, you have likely seen posts about the gratitude challenge, asking people to post, for seven...
Why is it all My fault?
Do you ever wonder how your spouse seemed one way when you first met but then turned out to be a totally different person after a few years??At first, you can't imagine how this...
Being Vulnerable in Your Marriage May Be Harder Than it Seems
As most brides are walking down the aisle the last thought going through their heads is most likely how difficult it may be one day to open up and be vulnerable with their...
Resentment and Anger in Marriage
Resentmentis defined as "Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly." (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...
Where Does Narcissism Come From?
Let me begin today by saying that I am not a fan of labels at all. I think that labels are for people who need to group people together for their own purposes, like insurance...
Heart of Gratitude
Heart of Gratitude: Without the trust of clients it is not possible to provide good therapy. "We are all faced with a series of great opportunities - brilliantly disguised as...
Love and Anxiety
For the purpose of this blog, I’m discussing anxiousness that many people feel that takes away their ability to be present or stable during relationship conflict. Many people...
The Shame Pimp
The Shame Pimp steals your time, hope, and self-respect. What makes you doubt your abilities? What steals your joy?Becoming disillusioned by shame creates over reactions and over...
Healing Emotional Hurts
Healing emotional pain is a rewarding journey, filled with barriers. Making healthy changes includes learning new tools. New tools that could feel strange, foreign. Being willing...
That’s not who I married!
Falling in love and getting married.....it seems so happy. Planning the party, imagining living together, hoping to get every type of happiness is pretty normal for most couples....
Passion and Purpose
It takes courage to be vulnerable, to love, to believe, to know, even in dark times, that the truth is worth knowing. Getting to the truth can be hard. Children know truth,...
Stinkin’ Thinkin’: The Addicted Brain
The propensity for addiction exists in each person. If you have a brain, then you have the required tool to become addicted. Addicted people are not physically different from...
Shame Wreaks Havoc on Marital Communications
This week's blog addresses how shame causes misunderstandings and communication issues between people. It’s easy to explain how this happens in marriages. Bob and Louise...
Fear, the True Mistress of Marriage
How has fear affected you in your life? Have you ever thought about all the things you wish you had done or said? What stopped you? Being afraid to do or not do things is common....
“Why Can’t We Just Talk?”
“We have communication issues.” I hear this often from couples regarding intimacy issues. So why is it so hard for people who love each other to just talk? First, we have to...
Enmeshment
Growing up, my parents were my whole world. Their approval and reactions to my choices mattered the most. Eventually, my school teachers and friends joined my circle of intimacy....
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