Marriage counseling is not really about fixing marriage. Sounds weird, yes I know. But marriage counseling is about fixing you. You are the only one that you can control, and you...
Marriage: The Well Oiled Machine
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Self-Talk Dictates Your Life
People in Indianapolis seek marriage counseling for many different reasons. Self-talk is a common thing that we work on. Healing Hearts of Indy provides a unique approach to...
“Truth about Abandonment!” Part II
"So, what happens next? How does my abandonment work in my marriage?" What happens next is our defenses kick into high gear. As adults, in our relationships, we can feel...
“Truth about Abandonment!”
Abandonment happens everyday in our lives......it happened in our past and it will happen again. Abandonment is the feeling that says "I did not get what I wanted or needed from...
“Is He Worth Therapy?”
Dealing with someone you love who feels distant, uncommitted, and is possibly having an affair can be gut wrenching and painful. The sting of betrayal, the lousy levels of...
You Never Know How Strong You Are
Reminder: I will be appearing on the show Unfaithful on the Oprah Winfrey Network March 17th at 9 pm. If you are in a marriage where one spouse has been unfaithful or if...
Intimacy, Eyes, and Dogs
I had an immediate reaction to a study that my husband told me about. He read that ‘if you look a dog in the eye and speak kindly to it, it will behave better.’ My immediate...
What Would You Say To Yourself?
If you could go back in time, say 10, 20, or 30 years, what would you say to yourself? You’ve lived through some rough stuff since then. You’ve gained wisdom from life...
Take What You’ve Got and Be Thankful
The words stung and then floated off into the universe. I was only in my 20’s, attending a gathering of friends one night when a 4 year old said those seven powerful words to...
The Gift of the Magi
Frantically trying to decide what to give your loved one for Christmas this year? You are not alone. While some people delight in the season of giving, far too many people...
Broken Radar
Are you constantly scanning the environment trying to figure out what your partner is feeling? Do you and your partner seem to be “reading” each other all the time? Do you...
How Old Is Your Inner Child?
How old is your inner child? The part of you that is tender, fragile, innocent, sweet, and easily hurt? We all walk around in adult bodies, making adult decisions, holding...
Forgive for You!
Forgiveness is a word spoken daily in my office. It is a struggle that most endure at some point in their lives. It is the woman who cannot get over and move on from being...
Who Do You Give Your Power To?
“Not today, Sister!” These 3 words taught me a huge lesson once that will stick with me for life. I had worked for months planning an employee event at my job and I was super...
Sitting In Your Stuff
”I feel like a crappy husband and father.” This was the response I got from a client recently when I asked him how he felt after seeing the movie, Courageous. I was intrigued...
A Quick Glance in the Mirror – Codependency
I recently had someone comment that discussing codependency feels like "man bashing." That some of the writing and talking I do about being independent and having power in a...
Trick or Treat
When you look into a child's eyes when they are all dressed up in their Halloween costumes, all you see is joy, fun, excitement. Dressing up and pretending to be someone they are...
Is Your Abandonment Bigger Than You Are?
Is your abandonment bigger than you are? Does it haunt you in the middle of the night? Does it cause you to dig through your spouse's phone records & text messages? Do you...
A Perfect Prison
I am a prisoner. My cell is my fear – fear of saying the wrong thing, doing the wrong thing, writing the wrong words, having the wrong opinion. What is it that makes a person...
Expectations Part Deux
So we already looked at how many implications the word "expectations" has on relationships. We have looked into how important it is that our partners know what our expectations...
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