If I could give each person just one gift, it would be the gift of being able to truly see themselves through the eyes of the people around them. It would be a sobering gift, for...
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Category: Addiction
3 Parts of You
Do you know the different parts of yourself? Most of us are only vaguely aware of the 3 different parts that I like to talk about in counseling: The Adult, The Little Boy/Girl,...
Are You Holding Yourself Back?
Are you holding yourself back? I read something recently about self-limiting beliefs and it reminded me how important our thoughts are. I was holding myself back and didn't even...
Cutting: Why People Self-Harm
This is an uncomfortable topic for most folks, but it is very important not to shy away from it whether you struggle with cutting or self-harm yourself, or if know someone who...
Addictions
If you have a brain, then you have the required tool to become addicted. Addicted people are not physically different from non-addicted people. Distorted thoughts cause...
What is Okay in Your Relationship?
As we walk blissfully down the aisle of matrimony, we generally feel as though we have a firm sense of what actions and behaviors we could consider "okay" in our marriage versus...
You Are Addicted to What?
When people think of addictions it is usually alcohol, drugs, or sex that first pops into their minds. They often think of these addictions that have 12 step support groups and...
Pornography: The Effects
We've heard all the main arguments and reasons to not watch pornography: because it objectifies people, it can be addictive, it's morally wrong, etc. As we take note of the...
Addiction Sufferers
Many addiction sufferers are unable to experience a full range of emotionalhealth within their day to day lives. This also leads to another issue of being unable to process and...
Why is it all My fault?
Do you ever wonder how your spouse seemed one way when you first met but then turned out to be a totally different person after a few years??At first, you can't imagine how this...
Emotional Anorexia
Most people are familiar with the term anorexia. When they hear the term they think of an eating disorder. People can also suffer from emotional anorexia. I see emotional...
Heart of Gratitude
Heart of Gratitude: Without the trust of clients it is not possible to provide good therapy. "We are all faced with a series of great opportunities - brilliantly disguised as...
What Therapy Is, and What Therapy Is Not
I think many people who have not participated in therapy have some misconceptions of what therapy is and what it is not. Some of these misconceptions are what keep people from...
Shame Fractures The Soul!
I had an amazing session this week with a client who was just beginning to see, and talk about, his shame. Something people all over the world are plagued with every single...
Sex Addiction and the Godfather: Part I
The movie, "The Godfather" is chalk full of family systems theory and addiction including sex addiction. What issue did the Godfather NOT suffer from! He seriously was void of a...
Are You An Over-Functioner?
Are you tired? Overworked? Overwhelmed? Feel like you can’t stop doing everything that you do or things will just fall apart? You are probably overfunctioning - BIG TIME!...
Why Do We Tell And Re-Tell Our Stories?
Know someone who is constantly telling the ‘stories’ of their life? Or is it you? We often tell our stories in great detail, with all of the drama, the exasperation, the angst,...
Victimy or Validating?
If you don’t know the difference between being a victim vs. validating your partner, you’re in trouble! Knowing the difference determines whether conflicts in your relationships...
Forgiveness ~ The Ultimate ‘F’ Word!
Why should we forgive someone who has hurt us? It feels like the most unnatural thing in the world, doesn’t it? It feels like we will hurt MORE if we forgive, doesn't it? If...
What’s At The Heart of YOUR Marital Issues?
Do you know what’s at the heart of your marital issues? What I’m talking about are the core issues, the deep fears and insecurities buried inside you and your spouse. If you...
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