We don't often think about the realm between expectation and reality. Usually, people move through life believing and trusting that everyday expectations and big picture...
Comparisons
by Nancy | Jan 3, 2016
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” ~Theodore Roosevelt Do you remember the game “Roshambo”? You might know it better as “Rock, Paper, Scissors.” Did you play this game as a kid?...
A True Test Of Character
by Kathy | Dec 9, 2015
Want a true test of your character? Try answering these questions . . . Does your spouse respect you? Do people view you as humble? Do your co-workers trust you to do the...
Journey Back to Loving (Part 2, sort of)
by Karen | Sep 7, 2015
Is your sense of unworthiness keeping you from embracing, communicating, and meeting your emotional needs? Let's talk. The original intent of this writing was to discuss the book...
Co-Parenting After Divorce
by Kathy | Jul 15, 2015
When people get divorced they are often angry, bitter, hurt and devastated. Their plans have been foiled and their lifestyle has changed. But in addition to all that, they now...
Why Everyone Needs Therapy!
by Kathy | May 14, 2015
I am of the opinion that just about everyone needs therapy. Why? Primarily because we can’t see into our own issues! We see ourselves and our decisions the way we WANT to see...
Know Yourself
by Javan | May 3, 2015
Are you living or existing? Do you know if you're making choices based on past life hurts or are you able to really see life in the "here and now?" Life is full of ups, downs,...
If I Could Give Each Person Just One Gift
by Kathy | Apr 28, 2015
If I could give each person just one gift, it would be the gift of being able to truly see themselves through the eyes of the people around them. It would be a sobering gift,...
The Blame Game
by Nancy | Apr 12, 2015
How do you discuss tough topics? If you are able to self-differentiate, not define yourself based on another person's actions or words, then you are able to hear another...
Change is Necessary
by Javan | Mar 29, 2015
Change is constant year after year, from the moment of birth. We grow as we learn and take in information based on life experiences. Change is necessary and normal. Have you...
How You Might Be Blocking Your Own Needs!
by Kathy | Mar 2, 2015
Do you ever become aware of a need and then immediately feel guilty? Or maybe you have a need but feel guilty asking for it to be met? Perhaps you hesitate asking for your need...
The Cure For Anxiety?
by Nancy | Mar 1, 2015
Pretty bold claim to make, don't you think? That there is a cure for something so commonplace in our society today that it plagues nearly everyone from time to time, and some...
Mindfulness
by Javan | Mar 1, 2015
Today, there are many different therapy techniques used to help people move from a place of "stuckness" to a fulfilled life. There is so much information on-line on self help....
Why I Don’t Give Advice
by Nancy | Feb 22, 2015
It's pretty common for people to seek out a counselor to get some advice. They want answers, a referee, an expert to tell them how to get out of the place they find themselves...
Why Is Marriage So Hard?
by Kathy | Feb 1, 2015
Why is marriage so hard? We meet the person who fits us perfectly and the love flows so freely, it is difficult to imagine it could ever be hard. So why is it so tough? I have 4...
Finding Happily Ever After
by Kathy | Jan 25, 2015
Have you been looking for happily ever after? Let’s face it. Deep down, that’s what we all want – for the struggle to end, the ease to begin. We want the comfort of having our...
What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You
by Javan | Jan 13, 2015
What took down the gloriously engineered Titanic ship wasn't the massive iceberg that was visible. It was the smaller, below water, out of sight, non-visible iceberg, below that...
Hope, Gratitude and Giving Thanks
by Javan | Nov 26, 2014
Good, emotional health is about knowing what works! Knowing your own strengths, your own happiness, and where you feel grounded is important for good, emotional health. Do you...
I Feel Abandoned In My Marriage
by Javan | Nov 7, 2014
If you read part one of abandonment, you have a bit of an understanding of how abandonment feelings are created in your life. What this looks like in current life, as an adult,...
The Power of Gratitude
by Nancy | Oct 7, 2014
Gratitude is one of the best daily practices you can foster. If you are on Facebook, you have likely seen posts about the gratitude challenge, asking people to post, for seven...
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