Do you ever wonder how your spouse seemed one way when you first met but then turned out to be a totally different person after a few years?? At first, you can’t imagine how this...
Why is it all My fault?
read more
Category: Individual Therapy
How To Develop Patience
Oh boy oh boy oh boy oh boy. Be careful what you ask for and for SURE be careful what you pray for. If you have prayed or otherwise asked the Universe for the trait of...
Resentment and Anger in Marriage
Resentment is defined as “Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.” (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...
Where Does Narcissism Come From?
Let me begin today by saying that I am not a fan of labels at all. I think that labels are for people who need to group people together for their own purposes, like insurance...
Struggling with Infertility
Becoming a parent may not be hard for most. But those who struggle with infertility know the heartache that comes with being unable to become a parent the way “everybody else...
Heart of Gratitude
Without the trust of clients it is not possible to provide good therapy. “We are all faced with a series of great opportunities - brilliantly disguised as insoluable problems.” -...
Love and Anxiety
For the purpose of this blog, I’m discussing anxiousness that many people feel that takes away their ability to be present or stable during relationship conflict. Many people...
The Shame Pimp
The Shame Pimp steals your time, hope, and self-respect. What makes you doubt your abilities? What steals your joy? Becoming disillusioned by shame creates over reactions and...
Healing Emotional Hurts
Healing emotional pain is a rewarding journey, filled with barriers. Making healthy changes includes learning new tools. New tools that could feel strange, foreign. Being willing...
That’s not who I married!
Falling in love and getting married.....it seems so happy. Planning the party, imagining living together, hoping to get every type of happiness is pretty normal for most couples....
Passion and Purpose
It takes courage to be vulnerable, to love, to believe, to know, even in dark times, that the truth is worth knowing. Getting to the truth can be hard. Children know truth,...
Stinkin’ Thinkin’: The Addicted Brain
The propensity for addiction exists in each person. If you have a brain, then you have the required tool to become addicted. Addicted people are not physically different from...
Shame Wreaks Havoc on Marital Communications
This week's blog addresses how shame causes misunderstandings and communication issues between people. It’s easy to explain how this happens in marriages. Bob and Louise...
Fear, the True Mistress of Marriage
How has fear affected you in your life? Have you ever thought about all the things you wish you had done or said? What stopped you? Being afraid to do or not do things is common....
“Why Can’t We Just Talk?”
“We have communication issues.” I hear this often from couples regarding intimacy issues. So why is it so hard for people who love each other to just talk? First, we have to...
Enmeshment
Growing up, my parents were my whole world. Their approval and reactions to my choices mattered the most. Eventually, my school teachers and friends joined my circle of intimacy....
How Angry Communication Hurts Marriage
Are you the couple that avoids and distances when you don’t agree? Or, are you the raging couple? Fighting against each other constantly? In either situation, someone is trying...
Unfulfilled Dreams
If a bee doubted how it could rest on a single flower petal, we wouldn't have honey. Yet, the bee does no such thing. The bee does what it is built to do...It makes honey without...
Defensiveness and Resistance
The resistance to acknowledge childhood and family of origin issues is common. What you learn and tell yourself about your life experiences in your childhood is crucial to...
You are Your Thanks-Giving!
Good, emotional health isn't just about knowing what goes wrong. It's also about knowing what works! Do you know what works for you. Knowing your own strengths, your own...
Categories
Abandonment
Addiction
Affairs
Anger
Anxiety
Codependent
Communication
Counterdependent
Depression
Differentiation
Divorce
Family Counseling
Grief
Individual Therapy
Intimacy
Marital Therapy
Marriage
Parenting
PTSD
Relationships
Self Abandonment
Self-Help
Separation
Shame
Uncategorized
Vulnerability
Our Blog