As we enter into another new year, it is common to think about resolutions, or changes, that we would like to make. Is the word "resolution" like a swear word to you? For many...
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The Trial Of The Mind
I love a good courtroom drama. Stories like “A Few Good Men” and “To Kill A Mockingbird” offer a lot to think about as well as some good suspense. I have recently begun using a...
Relationship Dependency
You CAN change the cycle of pain you came from..Rewrite your story for hope, for change, for unconditional love. What triggers you into a state of fear? What pushes your buttons?...
How People Pleasing Hurts You
When you are a people pleaser, the list of people in your life that you try to make happy can often times be endless. It is not always confined to just your spouse, kids, or...
Defensiveness: Protecting The Heart
Defensiveness is an excellent indicator to help find woundedness in the human heart. After all, we defend places that hurt, like a lion protecting a paw with a thorn in it....
The Power of Gratitude
Gratitude is one of the best daily practices you can foster. If you are on Facebook, you have likely seen posts about the gratitude challenge, asking people to post, for seven...
Why is it all My fault?
Do you ever wonder how your spouse seemed one way when you first met but then turned out to be a totally different person after a few years?? At first, you can’t imagine how this...
How To Develop Patience
Oh boy oh boy oh boy oh boy. Be careful what you ask for and for SURE be careful what you pray for. If you have prayed or otherwise asked the Universe for the trait of...
Resentment and Anger in Marriage
Resentment is defined as “Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.” (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...
Struggling with Infertility
Becoming a parent may not be hard for most. But those who struggle with infertility know the heartache that comes with being unable to become a parent the way “everybody else...
Positive Energy is Contagious!
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Being happy is a choice” or “Choose to have a good day”? I’ve recently noticed a trend in “positive thinking” speakers and authors. I agree, we...
Heart of Gratitude
Without the trust of clients it is not possible to provide good therapy. “We are all faced with a series of great opportunities - brilliantly disguised as insoluable problems.” -...
Love and Anxiety
For the purpose of this blog, I’m discussing anxiousness that many people feel that takes away their ability to be present or stable during relationship conflict. Many people...
The Shame Pimp
The Shame Pimp steals your time, hope, and self-respect. What makes you doubt your abilities? What steals your joy? Becoming disillusioned by shame creates over reactions and...
Healing Emotional Hurts
Healing emotional pain is a rewarding journey, filled with barriers. Making healthy changes includes learning new tools. New tools that could feel strange, foreign. Being willing...
That’s not who I married!
Falling in love and getting married.....it seems so happy. Planning the party, imagining living together, hoping to get every type of happiness is pretty normal for most couples....
Passion and Purpose
It takes courage to be vulnerable, to love, to believe, to know, even in dark times, that the truth is worth knowing. Getting to the truth can be hard. Children know truth,...
Stinkin’ Thinkin’: The Addicted Brain
The propensity for addiction exists in each person. If you have a brain, then you have the required tool to become addicted. Addicted people are not physically different from...
Shame Wreaks Havoc on Marital Communications
This week's blog addresses how shame causes misunderstandings and communication issues between people. It’s easy to explain how this happens in marriages. Bob and Louise...
Fear, the True Mistress of Marriage
How has fear affected you in your life? Have you ever thought about all the things you wish you had done or said? What stopped you? Being afraid to do or not do things is common....
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