The Power of Saying What We NEED

What you need The power of saying what we need in a relationship is absolutely vital to it’s success.  Have you ever had a really bad day? A day where it seemed like nothing went the way it should?  When you get home, all you want is to be embraced by your...
Hailstorm vs. Turtle

Hailstorm vs. Turtle

The Hailstorm vs. Turtle is an analogy created by Harville Hendrix to explain some of the very different ways a couple can behave and react within a relationship. Considering all the ways two people in a couple can be so very different, it often looks like the result...
Overcoming Defensiveness

Overcoming Defensiveness

  Defensiveness: When individuals feel attacked or misunderstood they often act out in ways to protect themselves. Many individuals get defensive when they are feeling criticized or blamed. When we get defensive we essentially take that blame and put it on the...
The Biggest Problems With Communication

The Biggest Problems With Communication

“The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”  Wow!  Did George Bernard Shaw really hit the nail on the head with this quote!  Couples frequently cite communication as their primary problem when they first enter counseling. ...