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Category: Codependent
Is Your No Broken?
Is your No broken? Do you find you can't say No? Tired of your mouth saying "Yes" when your brain says "No"? Do you accept invitations out of guilt instead of desire? Do you get...
Yes, or No?
I ran across a really good quote today that spoke to me. Louie Giglio said "Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else. Make sure your yes is...
What Kind of Self-Care Are You Getting?
What happens if you don't get self-care in a healthy way? You will get it in an unhealthy way! Don't believe me? Read on to learn the difference between the two and then see...
If I Could Give Each Person Just One Gift
If I could give each person just one gift, it would be the gift of being able to truly see themselves through the eyes of the people around them. It would be a sobering gift, for...
3 Parts of You
Do you know the different parts of yourself? Most of us are only vaguely aware of the 3 different parts that I like to talk about in counseling: The Adult, The Little Boy/Girl,...
Do You Suffer From the Doormat Syndrome?
Do you suffer from the doormat syndrome? Getting asked that question may feel like a slap in the face; especially if it is true. It is not easy to hear that we are a doormat,...
The Blame Game
How do you discuss tough topics? If you are able to self-differentiate, not define yourself based on another person's actions or words, then you are able to hear another...
Are Your Emotions Unstable?
Do your emotions sometimes feel unstable? Do you find yourself doing things you thought or promised you wouldn't do? Does your partner? You may be experiencing what I call the...
How You Might Be Blocking Your Own Needs!
Do you ever become aware of a need and then immediately feel guilty? Or maybe you have a need but feel guilty asking for it to be met? Perhaps you hesitate asking for your need...
How To Gain Control Over Your Life
Want more control over your life? It is much easier than you think! We spend so much of our time feeling anxious and out of control and we expend so much energy ruminating and...
Finding Happily Ever After
Have you been looking for happily ever after? Let's face it. Deep down, that's what we all want – for the struggle to end, the ease to begin. We want the comfort of having our...
Change Your Relationship Landscape
The ideal purpose of marriage and family is to be your true self, to grow,to be loved, and accepted, unconditionally. Family can be a place to learn the purpose and place for...
Relationship Dependency
You CAN change the cycle of pain you came from..Rewrite your story for hope, for change, for unconditional love.What triggers you into a state of fear? What pushes your buttons?...
3 Signs You May Be Codependent
The word codependent is thrown around a lot. Most of the time people hear the word in relation with being married to an alcoholic. Although it is true that if you are married to...
Enmeshment 101
The first order of business in Enmeshment 101 is learning what it is. Most people would be a little surprised to hear about being too close in a marriage What's wrong with...
Triangling – The Devil’s Triangle
Do you know someone who uses humor, gossiping, or backstabbing to address their inner anger towards someone else? Triangling like this is when someone is gossiping, judging,...
What Would You Say To Yourself?
If you could go back in time, say 10, 20, or 30 years, what would you say to yourself? You’ve lived through some rough stuff since then. No doubt, you’ve gained wisdom from...
Broken Radar
Are you constantly scanning the environment trying to figure out what your partner is feeling? Do you and your partner seem to be “reading” each other all the time? If so, do...
Who Do You Give Your Power To?
The Story “Not today, Sister!” These 3 words taught me a huge lesson once that will stick with me for life. I had worked for months planning an employee event at my job and I...
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