The Hailstorm vs. Turtle is an analogy created by Harville Hendrix to explain some of the very different ways a couple can behave and react within a relationship. Considering all...
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Category: Relationships
Is the Friendship Still Worth It?
Ever wonder, "Is the Friendship Still Worth It?" Have you ever had a friend who was a huge part of your life and has been through it all with you? Who has gone through the good...
5 Things I’ve Learned Since My Divorce
I was recently pondering 5 things I’ve learned since my divorce. I don’t take divorce lightly and trust me, I agonized hard in making the decision, but if divorce is something...
Are You Guilty Of Unhealthy Loyalty & Obligation?
Are you guilty of unhealthy loyalty & obligation? If you're in a relationship with an addict, you can probably are but you may not recognize it. Do you ever ask yourself...
5 Key Recovery Tips After a Toxic Relationship
Want to know 5 key recovery tips after a toxic relationship? Whether you were with a textbook Narcissist or someone who was simply not a healthy fit for your life. A...
7 Signs You’re In A Relationship With A Narcissist
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it is like being on a roller coaster. The highs can be high but the lows can be very low. The up and down nature of the...
5 Habits to Revitalize your Relationship Today
Focus on the positives instead of the negative things your partner does. A sign of an ailing relationship are couples who can easily point out all of the negative things their...
Why the Fantasy of Marriage is Killing Our Relationships
Always being happy We hear it all the time, right? Two become one. Now that you are married you are supposed to share everything and this other person is supposed to be your...
Fantasy vs. Reality of Love
When I meet, the one our eyes will connect from across the room and we’ll both just know each other is the one and live happily ever after. Don’t we all wish our lives could be...
Should Love be Conditional or Unconditional
As you walked down the aisle on your wedding day or waited at the alter for your bride, we often do not have a realistic view of marriage. We are still in the honeymoon, head...
Am I Codependent?
If I had a dime for every person who sat on my couch that saw him/herself as a strong, independent, and powerful person that was actually codependent in their significant...
The Last Thing She Needs To Hear When She’s Angry
She’s going to get angry. There’s no possible way you can spend the rest of your life with someone and not have them get angry at you at some point. It is hard to join our lives...
When NO Becomes a Negotiation
This is a topic that I am deeply passionate about. I began to explore this topic a few years ago after reading The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. The essence of the book was...
Letting Go of Resentment.
What is one issue that has been a common theme that hurts and even destroys relationships? I would define it as a marriage killer. The issue is resentment. Even working a lot...
Humility is Sexy
Humility is just absolutely essential for good healthy relationships. It brings us closer, connects us on a deep emotional level, and transcends our relationships to new heights....
The Pain Of Projection
I recently got a vivid reminder of the power - and pain - of projection. Projection is when you project your worst beliefs or fears about yourself onto someone else and believe...
The Cure For Loneliness
There are lots of times when clients come in to my office and talk about feeling lonely. They may even be married and have lots of friends, and still they say that they are...
Instant Gratification
Wow, do we live in a culture that loves it some instant gratification, am I right? I’m reminded of a video I saw once where a gal was going around asking random people on the...
Change
It’s normal to feel frustrated, stuck in a pattern, or unhappy with life circumstances. It’s also normal to know what causes frustration, irritation, and disappointment. The...
“It’s Going to be OK”
I had a client the other day remind me of something that illustrates a great point about being a good friend…particularly being a good friend when your friend is in pain for some...
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