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Blogs By: Kathy
Why Is Marriage So Hard?
Why is marriage so hard? We meet the person who fits us perfectly and the love flows so freely, it is difficult to imagine it could ever be hard. So why is it so tough? I have 4...
Finding Happily Ever After
Have you been looking for happily ever after? Let's face it. Deep down, that's what we all want – for the struggle to end, the ease to begin. We want the comfort of having our...
How 1 Word Changed My Shame
If you have shame - you know, that nagging, nasty inner voice that tells you everything you haven't done, everything you should've done differently, and how you otherwise just...
Does Marriage Counseling Work?
It's a valid question. Does marriage counseling actually work? As a marriage counselor, you would expect my answer to be a resounding, "Yes!", and to an extent it is, but I'm...
What’s Missing In Marriage?
What is a common missing ingredient in the couples that frequent my office? It is present in the beginning of a relationship. We heap it on and lavish our new love with it. Then,...
Are You Too Needy?
Are you too needy? Most of us would never admit to such a thing, yet we all have a little clinginess in us. How do you know when you are too needy in a relationship? Signs Here...
Doormat or Detective? What To Do After An Affair
If your relationship has been through an affair, you know how difficult it is to rebuild trust. I have had so many couples come to me wanting to repair their marriages after an...
Divorce Is A Tragedy Of The Heart
Divorce is a tragedy of the heart. I don't encourage it and I certainly don't judge anyone who has had to go through it. Sadly, I have joined those ranks recently myself. No...
Should You Trust After An Affair?
Should you trust after an affair? Is trust even an option at that point? How do you know when it is safe to trust and when it is not? People that have suffered through an affair...
Loneliness of the Soul
There are a lot of lonely people in the world. I mean really lonely. . . they. have a loneliness in their soul. I'm not only referring to the people who live alone, have no...
Does True Love Exist?
Does true love exist? Most of us believe in true love to an extent and see it as magical and intoxicating. We associate true love with very powerful feelings, but is that it? If...
How To Diffuse An Argument
Ever wonder how to keep an argument from escalating into an all out brawl? There is one simple tip that can, if used properly, diffuse an argument and get you and your partner...
What’s Your Anger Telling You?
Everybody gets angry. It is a normal human emotion that we all have to deal with, but anger gets a bad rap. Most of us see it as a bad, destructive thing, but our anger is...
The Best Definition of Marriage
Marriage is supposed to feel good! Or at least that’s what we all believe when we pursue a relationship. Feeling good is certainly part of a relationship, but check out what I...
How To Get Your Needs Met
Do you know how to get your needs met? Quite honestly, most people don’t, at least by my observation! And this creates a population of needy, desperate, and unhappy people!! So...
Do You Know Your “Little Girl”?
Do you know your little girl? I’m not talking about your daughter, I’m talking about the tender, sweet, vulnerable little girl that lives inside you as a woman. . . For us to...
From Your Loved One’s Eyes
As a couples counselor, one of the things I regularly do is teach people to see things through their loved one’s eyes. Honestly, this is one of the most powerful ways to love...
How To Feel Your Feelings!
Do you really feel your feelings? Do you allow yourself to feel the depths of your emotions? My guess is, probably not. There is a lot at stake!! If you allow yourself to be...
Is Emotional Cut-Off Damaging Your Relationships?
Is emotional cut-off damaging your relationships? Maybe it is, but you don’t even realize that you are doing it! Emotional cut-off is an all too common, primitive mechanism we...
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