Most clients I have met have heard of The Five Love Languages (by Dr. Gary Chapman), and many even know their own preferences. That being said, some struggle to apply this...
Applying the Five Love Languages
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Category: Communication
How To Use Your “Wise Mind”
Learning how to use your "wise mind" can be a lifesaver in having healthy, stable relationships that thrive instead of just survive. The human brain has two sides, each of which...
The Power of Saying What We NEED
What you need The power of saying what we need in a relationship is absolutely vital to it's success. Have you ever had a really bad day? A day where it seemed like nothing went...
Hailstorm vs. Turtle
The Hailstorm vs. Turtle is an analogy created by Harville Hendrix to explain some of the very different ways a couple can behave and react within a relationship.Considering all...
Boundaries 101
Welcome to Boundaries 101! Boundaries are a popular and sometimes confusing topic of discussion surrounding relationships. What is a boundary? How do we set healthy boundaries?...
Are You Addicted To Your Smart Phone?
Are you addicted to your smart phone? How do we wrestle with the VERY real connection we have with our cellphones? For a weekend, I tried "breaking up" with my phone, after...
Overcoming Defensiveness
Defensiveness can be destructive to our relationships. It breaks down trust and erodes the love we originally felt. What is it? Why do we have it? And how can we begin overcoming...
The Biggest Problems With Communication
"The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place." Wow! Did George Bernard Shaw really hit the nail on the head with this quote! Couples...
What do you mean by that?
Have you ever been in a conversation where someone smiled, acted polite, and used all of the politically correct phrasing... but something just felt off? Or have you ever said...
Cruelty Masked As Honesty
Has cruelty masked as honesty ever happened to you? Someone offered "helpful advice" that felt like an insult? An employer gives you a performance evaluation, but you left...
The Pain Of Projection
I recently got a vivid reminder of the power - and pain - of projection. Projection is when you project your worst beliefs or fears about yourself onto someone else and believe...
Instant Gratification
Wow, do we live in a culture that loves it some instant gratification, am I right? I'm reminded of a video I saw once where a gal was going around asking random people on the...
“It’s Going to be OK”
I had a client the other day remind me of something that illustrates a great point about being a good friend...particularly being a good friend when your friend is in pain for...
Anger and Healthy Boundaries
Have you felt strongly about something when you're really irritated, but then forget about that same thing like it was no big deal? Or have a bad thing happen that put you in a...
Why Do You NEED To Win The Argument?
Why do some arguments never end? Why do you need to win? Why do you just have to get the other person to see it your way? These are the very things that keep many couples caught...
Say What You Mean
Communication. It sounds simple and easy enough. More often than not, we don't say what we mean. And most of the time, we don't express what we feel. If you feel you're repeating...
Boundary vs. Ultimatum
I cannot tell you how many times I have helped folks who have difficulties having boundaries to develop better ones, only to have their spouses get super reactive to those new...
Violent Communication
Do you use violent ways to communicate? I don't mean physically hurting someone (although we certainly don't want that, either!) What I'm talking about are ways that we...
Journey Back to Loving (Part 2, sort of)
Is your sense of unworthiness keeping you from embracing, communicating, and meeting your emotional needs? Let's talk. The original intent of this writing was to discuss the book...
Reality of Marriage
Falling in love and getting married.....it seems so happy. Planning the party, imagining living together, hoping to get every type of happiness is pretty normal for most couples....
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