Couple's Therapy: “I really don’t know if I want to be in this relationship anymore. I just want to know that we tried everything we could.” I hear different versions of this...
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Category: Marriage
Let’s Talk About Sex
When couples come to me to work on their relationship, 9 out of 10 times sex is the last topic they bring up. We go through their struggles on communication, not feeling heard,...
Attachment Styles
We each have a level of both secure attachment and insecure attachment within us. Our attachment styles are formed by early experience and the way we are affected by our bonds...
Roommate Marriage
Do you feel like you are in a roommate marriage? Wishing for the times when you were constantly thinking about that special person - while you were at work, classes, completing...
Four Horsemen
In the Gottman Theory, John and Julie Gottman use an analogy to describe when a marriage could be on the brink of destruction called the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:...
Addiction: Substances Are Not The Problem
In this day addiction has been talked about as being a problem in many people's lives. Family members engage in interventions to help their loved ones know that their use is a...
How To Deal With A Manipulator
Most people have been in contact with an individual who knows how to turn the concerning situation that you have brought to them, onto you. Now you are the person in the wrong,...
What to do after you get engaged
Picture this...you just got engaged. You are so full of love and excitement that you are going to spend forever with your person. The wedding planning immediately begins. Venues,...
Navigating Family Time During Quarantine
Counselor and Co-Owner, Christy Aloisio, RN, LCSW, talks about how to adjust to increased family time....
Is Criticism Effective In Creating Change?
There is a lot of talk about "constructive" criticism, but is it really effective in creating change? Julie and John Gottman, couples' therapists and researchers, suggest...
Applying the Five Love Languages
Most clients I have met have heard of The Five Love Languages (by Dr. Gary Chapman), and many even know their own preferences. That being said, some struggle to apply this...
7 Signs You’re In A Relationship With A Narcissist
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it is like being on a roller coaster. The highs can be high but the lows can be very low. The up and down nature of the...
Keys To Enhancing Your Sex Life
There are several keys to enhancing your sex life. Whenever I approach the topic of sex with my clients I either get people who are excited to finally have the opportunity to...
Is It Too Late For Marriage Counseling?
Someone asked me recently if, by the time a couple seeks marriage counseling, is it already too late? Excellent question! Let me make 2 points in answering this question . . ....
5 Myths About Marriage
We all have expectations of what marriage should be like. The more closely our expectations and reality match the more satisfied we tend to be in life. However, the more...
What you Need Before you get married
When people are getting ready to get married, they can often take time to look at their relationship to see if there are any sticking points that may cause issues in the future....
4 Discussions You Should Have Before Committing (Part 2)
This is the continuation of my first blog post that will further outline topics that couples should discuss before marriage. If you haven't already, read part 1 of this series...
The #1 Marriage Killer
What if research found that one trait in particular was the number one marriage killer? Would you do anything to ensure that it didn't ruin yours? Or would you continue to let it...
5 Discussions You Should Have Before Committing To Marriage (Part 1)
This is part 1 of a series of blog posts that will outline topics that couples should discuss before marriage. During my time as a therapist, I have noted that the majority of...
The Pain Of Projection
I recently got a vivid reminder of the power - and pain - of projection. Projection is when you project your worst beliefs or fears about yourself onto someone else and believe...
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