If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it is like being on a roller coaster. The highs can be high but the lows can be very low. The up and down nature of the...
7 Signs You’re In A Relationship With A Narcissist
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Category: Marriage
Keys To Enhancing Your Sex Life
There are several keys to enhancing your sex life. Whenever I approach the topic of sex with my clients I either get people who are excited to finally have the opportunity to...
Is It Too Late For Marriage Counseling?
Someone asked me recently if, by the time a couple seeks marriage counseling, is it already too late? Excellent question! Let me make 2 points in answering this question . . ....
5 Myths About Marriage
We all have expectations of what marriage should be like. The more closely our expectations and reality match the more satisfied we tend to be in life. However, the more...
What you Need Before you get married
When people are getting ready to get married, they can often take time to look at their relationship to see if there are any sticking points that may cause issues in the future....
4 Discussions You Should Have Before Committing (Part 2)
This is the continuation of my first blog post that will further outline topics that couples should discuss before marriage. If you haven’t already, read part 1 of this series...
The #1 Marriage Killer
What if research found that one trait in particular was the number one marriage killer? Would you do anything to ensure that it didn’t ruin yours? Or would you continue to let it...
5 Discussions You Should Have Before Committing To Marriage (Part 1)
This is part 1 of a series of blog posts that will outline topics that couples should discuss before marriage. During my time as a therapist, I have noted that the majority of...
The Pain Of Projection
I recently got a vivid reminder of the power - and pain - of projection. Projection is when you project your worst beliefs or fears about yourself onto someone else and believe...
The Cure For Loneliness
There are lots of times when clients come in to my office and talk about feeling lonely. They may even be married and have lots of friends, and still they say that they are...
“It’s Going to be OK”
I had a client the other day remind me of something that illustrates a great point about being a good friend…particularly being a good friend when your friend is in pain for some...
The Seven Year *itch
If you can pardon the somewhat vulgar insinuation, I promise I have a point to my choice for the title of this blog. I just brewed up some Wild Mountain Blueberry coffee and am...
Marital Love: Conditional or Unconditional?
When we think about marital love, we think about commitment and wanting that union to go the distance. We want to think and believe that our love when we're married will never...
Why Can’t You Just Love Me?
Love and connection...that's what clients want that come in for marriage counseling. The multiple divorces and remarriages are evidence of the lack of love people feel in...
What Is Your Anger Pointing To?
What is your anger pointing to? This is such a difficult, but oh so important question because most of us think we know the answer. And when we “ know” the answer, we naturally...
Why Do You NEED To Win The Argument?
Why do some arguments never end? Why do you need to win? Why do you just have to get the other person to see it your way? These are the very things that keep many couples...
Boundary vs. Ultimatum
I cannot tell you how many times I have helped folks who have difficulties having boundaries to develop better ones, only to have their spouses get super reactive to those new...
The Marriage Saver
People ask me now and again, what is the key to staying married for the long haul? My parents are about to celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary, and it is obvious to anyone...
The “Fixer”
What happens when your partner or friend tells you about a problem? Do you automatically go into “fix it” mode? It’s a pretty common response to want to right a wrong. Something...
If I Could Give Each Person Just One Gift
If I could give each person just one gift, it would be the gift of being able to truly see themselves through the eyes of the people around them. It would be a sobering gift,...
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