Category: Self-Help
Guilt? Ok  Shame? No Way!

Guilt? Ok Shame? No Way!

GUILT? OK  SHAME? NO WAY Allowing guilt to manifest in shame is a harmful process that occurs way too often. Guilt is healthy. Shame is unhealthy. But I am far ahead of myself,...

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A Matter of Perspective

A Matter of Perspective

  Lately, the phrase "first world problems" has been buzzing around. One minute, our problems can seem so huge and life-changing and the next, after some perspective, the same...

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The Greatest Gift

The Greatest Gift

Does this sound like you?: “How long is this going to take?” “I’m busy.” “I don’t have TIME for this.” If so, you’re not alone. We have a lot to do and not a lot of time to do it...

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Who Is Ready For A Change?

Who is ready for a change? It might appear obvious that the reason we embark upon the journey of therapy is a quest for change. As a therapist, I confirm this concept. One...

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Why is Change So Hard

People sometimes want to give up or do give up on their quest for emotional change. Let’s face it. It’s hard. It is easy to give people credit for logistical or physical changes....

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The Curse Of The “Strong Woman”

What’s the problem with being a strong woman? We are tough. We are capable. We endure. We drive ourselves hard. We get crap done! We are the envy of others while we breeze...

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The Illusion of Control

Control is a really common topic in my office. One very simplistic definition of anxiety is "an over-focus on things that may or may not happen," in other words...thinking too...

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What Is Your Anger Pointing To?

What is your anger pointing to?  This is such a difficult, but oh so important question because most of us think we know the answer. And when we “ know” the answer, we naturally...

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Comparisons

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” ~Theodore Roosevelt Do you remember the game “Roshambo”? You might know it better as “Rock, Paper, Scissors.” Did you play this game as a kid?...

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Constructive Criticism

Is there such a thing as constructive criticism?  I was listening to a training by John and Julie Gottman, a couple of the most well-respected couples therapists and researchers,...

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A Matter of Perspective

I was in a training session the other day about taking a biblical approach to anxiety and depression counseling, and a picture came into my mind about our perspectives in life...

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Caregiver Burnout

Those who spend a great deal of their life caring for others...whether that be an ailing family member, someone with a chronic or terminal illness, or your patients if you work...

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