Resentment and Anger in Marriage

by Javan | Sep 26, 2014

Resentment is defined as “Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.” (Wikipedia, 2013) Feeling piqued and angry, indignation takes energy, is depleting, and taints the...

Where Does Narcissism Come From?

by Nancy | Sep 23, 2014

Let me begin today by saying that I am not a fan of labels at all. I think that labels are for people who need to group people together for their own purposes, like insurance...

Struggling with Infertility

by Javan | Sep 14, 2014

Becoming a parent may not be hard for most. But those who struggle with infertility know the heartache that comes with being unable to become a parent the way “everybody else...

The Great Marital Divide

by Christy Aloisio | Sep 7, 2014

Many couples have felt the great marital divide. The divide that cannot be physically seen, but can be felt by both husband and wife. The gap can feel as big as the Grand Canyon....

Heart of Gratitude

by Javan | Aug 24, 2014

Without the trust of clients it is not possible to provide good therapy. “We are all faced with a series of great opportunities - brilliantly disguised as insoluable problems.” -...

What’s Your Anger Telling You?

by Kathy | May 25, 2014

Everybody gets angry. It is a normal human emotion that we all have to deal with, but anger gets a bad rap. Most of us see it as a bad, destructive thing, but our anger is...

The Best Definition of Marriage

by Kathy | May 20, 2014

Marriage is supposed to feel good! Or at least that’s what we all believe when we pursue a relationship. Feeling good is certainly part of a relationship, but check out what I...

How To Get Your Needs Met

by Kathy | May 11, 2014

Do you know how to get your needs met? Quite honestly, most people don’t, at least by my observation! And this creates a population of needy, desperate, and unhappy people!! So...

Do You Know Your “Little Girl”?

by Kathy | May 4, 2014

Do you know your little girl? I’m not talking about your daughter, I’m talking about the tender, sweet, vulnerable little girl that lives inside you as a woman. . . For us to...

From Your Loved One’s Eyes

by Kathy | Apr 27, 2014

As a couples counselor, one of the things I regularly do is teach people to see things through their loved one’s eyes. Honestly, this is one of the most powerful ways to love...

How To Feel Your Feelings!

by Kathy | Apr 13, 2014

Do you really feel your feelings? Do you allow yourself to feel the depths of your emotions? My guess is, probably not. There is a lot at stake!! If you allow yourself to be...

Is Emotional Cut-Off Damaging Your Relationships?

by Kathy | Apr 6, 2014

Is emotional cut-off damaging your relationships? Maybe it is, but you don’t even realize that you are doing it! Emotional cut-off is an all too common, primitive mechanism we...

Do You Really Want Change In Your Life?

by Kathy | Mar 23, 2014

Do you really want change in your life? So many people do. They complain about where they are at, and they say they want change, but what does it really take to get there? ...

Abandonment Issues

by Javan | Mar 21, 2014

Abandonment issues are all over the world. Everyone experiences loss at some point or another in their lives. But the abandonment issues I am discussing today, on my video, and...

What’s Your Status In Victimville?

by Kathy | Mar 16, 2014

Are you a victim? Many people think, “Yes!”, because others have wronged them. And that may be true, however, read on! You may be more of a victim of a victim mentality than...

A Vital Lesson In Life

by Kathy | Mar 9, 2014

Henry Cloud was once asked “What is the most important lesson we need to teach our children?” He answered very simply, “How to deal with loss.” This very wise and profound...

Eliminate Your Shame Voices!

by Kathy | Mar 2, 2014

If you have shame, you have shame voices. Shame is the deep belief that we are bad, stupid, worthless, etc. The shaming voices are the messages that play in our head, a...

What Not To Trust!

by Kathy | Feb 23, 2014

If there is one thing I’ve learned in all of my recovery work, it is do not trust a sense of urgency! That overwhelming sense that I must do something right now is usually a...

8 Signs of a Rescuer

by Kathy | Feb 16, 2014

Would your friends describe you as someone who “would do anything for anybody”? Or as someone who “goes way out of his way to help people”? Maybe your spouse complains because...

Shame Fractures The Soul!

by Kathy | Feb 9, 2014

I had an amazing session this week with a client who was just beginning to see, and talk about, something people all over the world are plagued with every single day! I see it...

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